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The when . . . How important is a timeframe
Sincity2:
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--- Quote from: Sincity2 on December 03, 2019, 06:00:25 PM ---I personally think the majority of people can say they are not hanging on to timeframes but in actuality they probably are in some subconscious way. I think it’s unhealthy to wait for someone for so long, but who am I to talk, I still can’t let go of the guy I’m getting readings on.
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I agree with this, almost all of my time frames have passed or been pushed out. I was given an 8 by a reader, which could mean 8 months (8 days, and 8 weeks have passed). I'm definitely not waiting 8 months for contact with my poi
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Me too. I feel pathetic for waiting as long as I have.
Arigirl:
I have given myself a personal deadline of January 1st, if there has been no progression between poi and I by then, I am refusing to bring the uncertainty or anxiety into 2020. I have actually met someome really awsome about 2 months ago, surprisingly a lot of readers did not pick up on him. To be fair I haven't called about him though, he's honestly given me no need to
Love2lovenj:
Arigirl, same here. Our last conversation was long and pleasant yet i haven't heard from him in awhile now. I am in the meantime doing my own thing (so it's not like i am waiting on him).Considering how up and down our relationship has been I too figured come the new year it might be time to cement the door shut. This way i don't have to anticipate him popping in when there is a new person in the picture. I kid you not the man has a way of timing things that throws confusion i to the picture. That's a whole other topic all together.
I honestly feel like when he comes back into the picture it messes up the new connection I am working on. Like it throws something off with the new guy. Not sure if that happens to anyone else.
Arigirl:
--- Quote from: Love2lovenj on December 03, 2019, 07:52:42 PM ---Arigirl, same here. Our last conversation was long and pleasant yet i haven't heard from him in awhile now. I am in the meantime doing my own thing (so it's not like i am waiting on him).Considering how up and down our relationship has been I too figured come the new year it might be time to cement the door shut. This way i don't have to anticipate him popping in when there is a new person in the picture. I kid you not the man has a way of timing things that throws confusion i to the picture. That's a whole other topic all together.
I honestly feel like when he comes back into the picture it messes up the new connection I am working on. Like it throws something off with the new guy. Not sure if that happens to anyone else.
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Yes, this has happened to me 2x with my poi last year and this summer. My poi went mia for about 3 weeks last November and this June. I started seeing other people during these times in response to his lack of commitment, but literally the day my poi decided to communicate with me the other men drifted or ghosted on both occasions
Smiley1:
I’ve realised the prediction is more important than the timing. For me I learnt lots from certain readers and worked out who is good with what. I’d rather get a correct prediction and live my life than be given false hope.
Truth is not all readers are good but some dive deeper and know what we do to sabotage our own happiness. That is what I learnt more when getting readings. It’s kind of made me a happier person
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