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IF......POI comes back after ghosting
Angel22:
Just curious - any advices or suggestions would be really appreciated.
I have been going through this forum for past 6 months and been through some posts where people mentioned there POI ghosted them. Similar thing happened with me, my POI ghosted me after 6 months of dating and then began the psychic binge. Finally I have come to the stage of letting go and leaving everything on God/Universe. Accepting whatever might be the outcome. Some really good readers gave me the reasons such as fear of commitment, not financially stable, healing etc etc..and I believe similar kind of readings have been given to many people over here. 6 months is not a long period to date and get stuck on a guy but somehow I was unable to let go and felt our connection was genuine and I know he is a good guy. Things were fine and suddenly the ghosting. I never pushed him nor pursued him after he did not answer my text. I know ghosting thing has been discussed on this forum before as to how it is uncool, know your self-worth, its cowardly etc. But has any readers readings from the above reasons panned true and the poi came back after ghosting? If he was genuine would you let go and give it a chance even if the ghosting thing is not acceptable? It would be hard to trust the guy later (in case he comes back) but has anyone here gone through this and things happened according to what a reader said and eventually things became good with your POI? or hypothetically how would you react in such a case?
Sparkle002:
There are many many posts about a poi coming back after ghosting... I’m an example of that even just recently...most of the time they come back but not wanting anything serious. And that’s the catch. Usually at that point most people have moved on or your trust has completely diminished and there’s no point in taking them back.
Sometimes there isn’t a really good reason why somebody ghosts other than they just probably just didn’t want to deal with the situation....Or simply put ..they met somebody else! had it happen twice to me since I’ve been on this board (with someone I actually liked) ....and it was in the 4 to 5 month range. It’s crazy they would do it that late in the game...
--- Quote from: Angel22 on November 08, 2019, 05:18:56 AM ---Just curious - any advices or suggestions would be really appreciated.
I have been going through this forum for past 6 months and been through some posts where people mentioned there POI ghosted them. Similar thing happened with me, my POI ghosted me after 6 months of dating and then began the psychic binge. Finally I have come to the stage of letting go and leaving everything on God/Universe. Accepting whatever might be the outcome. Some really good readers gave me the reasons such as fear of commitment, not financially stable, healing etc etc..and I believe similar kind of readings have been given to many people over here. 6 months is not a long period to date and get stuck on a guy but somehow I was unable to let go and felt our connection was genuine and I know he is a good guy. Things were fine and suddenly the ghosting. I never pushed him nor pursued him after he did not answer my text. I know ghosting thing has been discussed on this forum before as to how it is uncool, know your self-worth, its cowardly etc. But has any readers readings from the above reasons panned true and the poi came back after ghosting? If he was genuine would you let go and give it a chance even if the ghosting thing is not acceptable? It would be hard to trust the guy later (in case he comes back) but has anyone here gone through this and things happened according to what a reader said and eventually things became good with your POI? or hypothetically how would you react in such a case?
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Angel22:
Thanks for sharing and I agree with both of you. But did you guys had any reading where the reader predicted correctly that the guy is genuine but has commitment issues and he did come back after several months? Just asking because many of the top readers did mention this and that he will be coming back (I no longer know who to believe and I have stopped getting attached to the outcome, slowly releasing and I feel better, also stopped getting readings).. but was curious. Of course time reveals everything and things would be clear eventually (if he would come back or not) but what if he comes back, you still have feelings for him and give him a chance? Has this happened with anyone? I also know it would take a hell lot of work to trust him again but just thinking about possibilities..
Sparkle002:
Just a tip: ALL readers say the guy has commitment issues - so yes. While that is true to an extent - the extent is that ...I bet he wont have those issues when he finds his "dreamgirl" lol.
But I think we are saying the same thing - they all say that the guy is genuine, he has feelings for you, blah blah, then say But this and or that...the thing is...he could genuinely want to see you and is attracted .....and yes in my case, the guy has come back months later (mine was 4 months later after ghosting). BUT he didnt want to be COMMITTED.
GUYS ALMOST ALWAYS COME BACK BUT NOT IN THE WAY YOU WANT. Like 90% of the time.
Usually US women give the guy a chance when he comes back, but then the dude usually flops on his ass and eventually disappears for good. Im not trying to be negative at all, this is typically how it happens. You dont want to put up with a flakey ass dude trust me.
Yes I gave the dude a second chance, we went to Barbados (an island in the Caribbean) on vacation and everything. When we got back, he disappeared again. SMH
I know this is a challenge to go through, many of us on the board have been through it as well - and if you go digging and start reading ppls stories (all the information is out there) you wont find to many situations where the guy disappeared and came back on his white horse with roses and cheese and chocolate. Usually the guy ends up with a relationship with someone else or even married.
So in the end, the READERS could be VERY right on this person "Coming Back" but in WHAT CONTEXT? If they are saying he is "coming back" they could be RIGHT. But if they say specifically that he is coming back and wanting a romantic, consistent, Committed relationship - id probably not put too much hope in that prediction (again it depends on the circumstance, but usually if the relationship didnt start off committed, then the likelyhood of that happening is LOW).
--- Quote from: Angel22 on November 08, 2019, 03:04:10 PM ---Thanks for sharing and I agree with both of you. But did you guys had any reading where the reader predicted correctly that the guy is genuine but has commitment issues and he did come back after several months? Just asking because many of the top readers did mention this and that he will be coming back (I no longer know who to believe and I have stopped getting attached to the outcome, slowly releasing and I feel better, also stopped getting readings).. but was curious. Of course time reveals everything and things would be clear eventually (if he would come back or not) but what if he comes back, you still have feelings for him and give him a chance? Has this happened with anyone? I also know it would take a hell lot of work to trust him again but just thinking about possibilities..
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Apalm831:
--- Quote from: Sparkle002 on November 08, 2019, 03:47:57 PM ---Just a tip: ALL readers say the guy has commitment issues - so yes. While that is true to an extent - the extent is that ...I bet he wont have those issues when he finds his "dreamgirl" lol.
But I think we are saying the same thing - they all say that the guy is genuine, he has feelings for you, blah blah, then say But this and or that...the thing is...he could genuinely want to see you and is attracted .....and yes in my case, the guy has come back months later (mine was 4 months later after ghosting). BUT he didnt want to be COMMITTED.
GUYS ALMOST ALWAYS COME BACK BUT NOT IN THE WAY YOU WANT. Like 90% of the time.
Usually US women give the guy a chance when he comes back, but then the dude usually flops on his ass and eventually disappears for good. Im not trying to be negative at all, this is typically how it happens. You dont want to put up with a flakey ass dude trust me.
Yes I gave the dude a second chance, we went to Barbados (an island in the Caribbean) on vacation and everything. When we got back, he disappeared again. SMH
I know this is a challenge to go through, many of us on the board have been through it as well - and if you go digging and start reading ppls stories (all the information is out there) you wont find to many situations where the guy disappeared and came back on his white horse with roses and cheese and chocolate. Usually the guy ends up with a relationship with someone else or even married.
So in the end, the READERS could be VERY right on this person "Coming Back" but in WHAT CONTEXT? If they are saying he is "coming back" they could be RIGHT. But if they say specifically that he is coming back and wanting a romantic, consistent, Committed relationship - id probably not put too much hope in that prediction (again it depends on the circumstance, but usually if the relationship didnt start off committed, then the likelyhood of that happening is LOW).
--- Quote from: Angel22 on November 08, 2019, 03:04:10 PM ---Thanks for sharing and I agree with both of you. But did you guys had any reading where the reader predicted correctly that the guy is genuine but has commitment issues and he did come back after several months? Just asking because many of the top readers did mention this and that he will be coming back (I no longer know who to believe and I have stopped getting attached to the outcome, slowly releasing and I feel better, also stopped getting readings).. but was curious. Of course time reveals everything and things would be clear eventually (if he would come back or not) but what if he comes back, you still have feelings for him and give him a chance? Has this happened with anyone? I also know it would take a hell lot of work to trust him again but just thinking about possibilities..
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I’m on round 5 of a dude that keeps coming back. 5 times. I love him, I don’t think it’s mutual, but I can’t shake him. It’s a really difficult, painful situation and I find it utterly confounding that he keeps returning despite big, dramatic break ups and saying he doesn’t want a relationship. I don’t get it and wish I hadn’t gotten reinvolved the second time around.
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