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Jellybean123:

--- Quote from: midwest60 on October 12, 2019, 11:25:48 AM ---I've read all these posts about disappointment with POI's and love, and most importantly, being let down by a psychic who you depended on for insight. Been there and done that in my late 40's until I was numb. Now, 15 years later I read about more people experiencing what I did with love and see the disappointment from the same readers!  Golden Tarot and Soul Navigation ...the list goes on and on of people I called. If only I knew then that the only way to find lasting and healthy relationships was to not stress out about people who had moved on or were not interested. If they were meant to come back, they would. And, in my case they did return after their relationships failed but I was no longer interested. And by then, I had met a new person through my church. Of course, there was no Facebook when I was in my 40's. I find it suspicious when someone posts so many private details online. I know it must be difficult to read if you are an ex, but at the same time, why is the ex doing that in the first place? Validation?

Keep praying and focus on maintaining a healthy perspective. Your time will come for a happy relationship! For me, I went back to school and got a second degree and everything fell into place.

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Well said great post, we should all live by this !!

Star_01:
There's some really good points above.

To add to this, I got addicted pretty much all of last year on and off, and not one single reader got even the current situation right. I was 19 at the time and they blamed and generalised things on my age range, saying he was too busy with work or enjoying the single life. That he had commitment issues and he was enjoying ladies' attention and being around these women would realise me and what he wants/missing out on blah blah blah. I did find out this year when I got a friend to check his social media that he was and still is in a relationship, he isn't no player at all or enjoying the single life. So I really would encourage people to take face value the way things are here and now and live your life as your ex coming back is 50/50 and usually when you have moved on. Sods law but that's what seems to be a theme, or it's the same flakiness/on and off behaviour.

Rayban212:
Hey star,

I’m curious to know who did you read with last year that didn’t get anything right? Was it mainly keen readers?

MidwesternSun:
There are some valid points here. 

I spoke with a friend of mine the other day about my ex's post.  I was physically sick for a few days after seeing it.  Now, I am genuinely trying to not hold on to any false hopes.  But my friend had a good point.  If I knew my ex like I thought I did, her personality isn't going to change in six months or even nine months.  Is she genuinely in love with this guy?  Maybe.  Maybe not. 

What likely happened is he came in during a time when she was vulnerable and he may have helped her to feel better about herself and her decision.  It grew their friendship and she is probably attempting to make a point to herself that she can be happy, though I do not know just how happy she is.  The last post she made was in June... four months ago.  And this guy hasn't responded to this declaration of love - not a message post or a like or anything.  In some ways, I feel like she is unintentionally playing him or taking him for a ride. 

Over the last few days, I went back and listened to Cookie's last reading (mid-September) she said, "Very soon, in the near future, it shows you looking at some pictures she is releasing... pictures of them.  They look happy, but I see her not that happy on the inside.  She is thinking about you daily... it shows her in a sitting position and waiting.  It shows you in an state of emotional wreck.  Do not worry... I already promised you, and it still shows her reaching out and talking to you before the end of the year."

The friend I spoke with, a woman, said she was in a similar situation.  She did nearly the exact same thing as my ex (just without facebook).  She said, 'I broke up with my boyfriend (now husband) because at the time I wasn't sure I was ready for marriage.  After the break-up, I thought I wanted freedom to be me and freedom to explore.  Over time, however, I wanted him to pursue me... I wanted to know he still cared.  When he stopped chasing, I got worried.  After almost a year, I reached out to him and we've been married for over 12 years.  I almost lost the greatest man I have ever known."

So, who knows?  Maybe she needs to discover something about herself.  Maybe this declaration of love is a form of seeking validation.  I am personally curious to know why he hasn't responded.  Oh well... I'll keep dating. 


--- Quote from: midwest60 on October 12, 2019, 11:25:48 AM ---I've read all these posts about disappointment with POI's and love, and most importantly, being let down by a psychic who you depended on for insight. Been there and done that in my late 40's until I was numb. Now, 15 years later I read about more people experiencing what I did with love and see the disappointment from the same readers!  Golden Tarot and Soul Navigation ...the list goes on and on of people I called. If only I knew then that the only way to find lasting and healthy relationships was to not stress out about people who had moved on or were not interested. If they were meant to come back, they would. And, in my case they did return after their relationships failed but I was no longer interested. And by then, I had met a new person through my church. Of course, there was no Facebook when I was in my 40's. I find it suspicious when someone posts so many private details online. I know it must be difficult to read if you are an ex, but at the same time, why is the ex doing that in the first place? Validation?

Keep praying and focus on maintaining a healthy perspective. Your time will come for a happy relationship! For me, I went back to school and got a second degree and everything fell into place.

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midwest60:
Hang in there Midwestern Sun. And to you (and all the others), make sure you take good care of yourself as I know that being hurt impacts your health. The best advice I can give is to think of one thing that you always wanted to do for yourself but have not done....identify that goal, challenge, or fear....and then go after it.  You'll be surprised how taking control will help you feel better about your outlook and take your mind off things. When you grow mentally and spiritually, it speeds up the healing process. Forward thinking....your time will come for what was intended for you.

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