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The Fidget Chronicles

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Jeninmd2:
Yay, congrats, Fidget!!!  Looking forward to hearing your updates! :)

Jili1945:
Congrats Fidget! this is wonderful. Hope things go great by the end.

And Mattie asked me exactly the same question when she was reading about POI, all of a sudden. I have no plan to change my job (I am new to this job actually), but I am getting a bit worry. Kisha did the same, in email and on phone. The same came up in Rusty's general reading. I don't really know what is gonna happen, unexpectedly.

Fidget1028:
The Fidget Chronicles - Damn Social Media!

Well...it appears many, many readers are/were wrong. What a waste of time.

So, as you may (or may not) recall, my POI had an aversion to social media. He is one of those conspiracy theorists that believes he will be hacked and someone will steal his identity (like anyone would want it...LOL). Regardless, he wasn't into it. So after we broke up (maybe 6 months or so) I noticed that there was a blank profile with his name on IG and a blank one on FB. No posts, pics, info, nothing. Now it may not have been him, but his name isn't John Smith, so of course I was suspicious and blocked them. He DID have one old account on FB that had pics from 2012 long before I met him. The only pics on that profile were of a business he had started in another state. While we were still seeing each other I asked Mr. Anti-FB about that profile and he told me his son had set it up for his business. He never used it and he didn't remember the password to it. Made sense since it was over 5 years old and there was nothing new on it.

So...a few days ago I went to check on his kids via social media. Long story short, both of them are hot messes and I've always kept tabs on them. I'm not friends/connected with either, but they're savvy enough to occasionally put stuff up as public. So I search his one son's name (same as POI) a new profile comes up. I look and it's the OLD account (which I never blocked) with a new profile pic. The profile pic WAS THE DOG I GOT HIM!!! I (hesitantly) started stalking his account. I mean, my first thought is that with the 3rd party and all, I was going to see things that were going to trigger me big time. So, glutton for punishment that I am, I stalk anyway. And guess what? No third party, he's drinking...a lot. Still lives in the same house. Pics of the dog...his grandson...a few cars. EIGHT friends! EIGHT!!! Two are his sons, 4 are old connections from the other state in 2012, one guy he works with, and a random woman. Random woman...3rd party...it must be HER!!! And she's cute...sigh. Ok, onto stalking random woman. She posts daily...hmmm...lots of pics...all ppublic. So I scroll and scroll...there it is! A pic that he is tagged in!! But..........he's not "with" her. She's married. The pics have her and her husband, and my POI looking like a TOE!! Alone. Looking like he wished he was anywhere else. His only solace is the beer in his hand...and alone in every pic he is tagged in. These pics go back to the beginning of August. Nothing. He's all alone in a group of people who are all paired up. So I think that maybe the 3rd party is taking the pics. But no, he's with no one. Not one single pic where he's even standing near a woman. He's single. He's alone. He's drinking.

So anyway, a lot of readers were wrong. He's not in a relationship. Maybe he's dated, but it couldn't have lasted more than a few weeks at the most. He didn't move. He, from all appearances doesn't look happy. He looks like he isn't taking care of himself. The worst part is that I KNEW THIS. I always did. I let readers upset me. I let readers make me question my intuition. I knew him better. I'm not sure how I feel right now. He's not in a good place from the looks of it. It's probably better that we aren't together. And it doesn't make me happy that he's not happy. Who would have thought...

Until next time.

Jili1945:
I have the same question Fidget. If you don't mind, please share with us who got it wrong.

Girly1998:
I lol’d at the toe comment 😂

Very nice detective work! It’s very sad that he appears to be in a rough place right now - I hope he can get out of this funk, but it’s good you were able to confirm your intuition. You do know him better, continue listening to yourself!

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