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Girly1998:

--- Quote from: Silverlightnmoom on August 28, 2019, 06:26:09 PM ---I only read a portion of this thread so it is a little inappropriate I am chiming in; but I have an experience to share.
I remember I was dating a guy who lived some distance from me who I met on a bacholorette party. He flew over a couple times to see me and I to him and we were in a casual sense "dating." After about 6 months of this, this guy disappeared on me. No call, no text, no stupid cat-meme, nothing. TWO WHOLE DAMN WEEKS LATER, I get a "Hey I'm sorry I was busy" message. Mind you, I saw social media activity frequently. So he texts me, I confront him and I say to him " You know this means we are starting over." This was a key statement that I communicated which said, what you did was not okay and all the effort you put in the beginning to gain my trust you lost' so you will need to work to gain it all back and I will need to work to forgive you. I believe this is what women miss when re-starting a relationship, you don't start where you left off, you RE-START from the beginning. I think some women are afraid that re-starting from the beginning will be too much work for their partners and they will leave again. But if someone is not "changed" and wants back in your life, they will leave again regardless.

My two-three cents.

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I love this a lot. That’s all lol

HornetKick:
Many of you are saying some amazing and very logical things, I don't believe some people can see at the moment.
I can't even fathom a guy ghosting for weeks or months on end, then reappear as if nothing has happened. He obvious thinks it's okay and has done it before.
I've never been there, so it absolutely makes no sense to me, so I can't really comment...other than to say how important some of these messages are.

Girly1998:
Personally, if me and someone was broken up for months and he dated other people during that just to make him realize he can’t feel for them what he feels for me, I’d be pretty forgiving. Realistically that’s what you’re supposed to do when you breakup - the goal is to move on but it doesn’t always happen that way. I’ve had flings with people in an attempt to find someone better but I always come to the realization that they aren’t him and at this point in time, I only want him. Maybe not forever but right now that’s how I feel. But my attempt at moving on isn’t a betrayal of him and it certainly doesn’t come from a malicious state. I would only not forgive them if they chose to run their new girl in my face in an attempt to hurt me.

SomethingBetter:
Lovefash, I like this topic. If I’m being honest with myself, during my first round of psychic binge years ago, I believed every positive reading I got on two different men. Even though every inch of my being, my gut, was screaming the opposite. And I was right, one, who said he didn’t want to be tied down anytime soon, got engaged and married. He just didn’t want to be tied to ME. The other was banging half the town. Some good ones like Kisha tried to warn me but I didn’t listen.

I thought this past year when I started again, I would be better. I had more predictions occur. I was more logical in my thinking. But still, but now I have a situation where for some reason, my intuition is NOT working. My gut is void. So I’m doing the most logical thing I can think of and that’s listening to my head instead of anything else. This person and I want different things, we are at different places in our lives and I deserve more. I have one final reading with Yona.

I’m over the timelines (none have passed yet), the varying degrees of the same answer, Cookie-isms, watching out for Yona predictions...I can’t handle it anymore

At least for now.

I’d rather just follow my head right now. If this person comes back I’ll cross that road when I get there. But I can’t take it right now.

I spent years holding on to some people. Time is precious.

And if he comes back, he doesn’t have an open door. There will be a lot of trust building and explanations to come.

Just what’s right for me right now.

kdspirited:
I hear ya all. I stopped getting readings as much as possible and trying not to get any additional readings they mess with my head. I lose sight of logic rationale and whats happening right in front of me. My heart hurts when I try to think of letting him go but i know I must. I must move on. I am trying to do surrender and letting go meditations to release this but I know most of all I need to stop getting readings. i scheduled one with Yona and immediately regretted it. All my last readings are from May and June and they all speak of a september timeline. That is still making me hold on to hope I dont need this is why no more readings. After october I am not reading with Anyone just want to heal my broken heart

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