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Think I should just move on
Cteebaby1:
Another update poi Is definitely trying to come back. Calls every day ... BUT I can’t get over how he treated me and the fact he’s only back bc so&so must’ve left him . I can’t bring myself to go past friends with him . I called QOC to ask her about the situation and she said the third party is gone and she sees other people around the person and my poi really likes me. However, I personally can not get over what he put me through these past 6 months !!! I was so depressed . I just feel like I’m over that
Dxbguppy1:
Completely feel you here.
I'm in the same position all of a sudden. Spend thousands on readings and now he's back I'm just like ummm I dont know if i want you back anymore. Its because we get so focused on getting them back and the rejection hurts that we put all the energy into answers and having them back and then when they do were stuck in this situation of do i even want you now?
I would say hold your ground in terms of the things he didnt do right by you so he knows this isnt something he can do to you again and just take it each day at a time. You'll know in time if you can move past it or not and if he cant wait that out then he isnt worth it anyways.
Good luck.
Cteebaby1:
Exactly ! He can put a title on a relationship with other people but want to keep me on a leash and n his life by doing the bare minimum because he knows how much I care . He really embarrassed me though and I’ll be the dumbest girl in the world if I go back. Smh I just can’t bring myself to do it this time . Other times he never got into a relationship wen we broke up but this time he did and gave her everything I asked for 😥😥.
Arigirl:
I've been thinking somenting similar, if my POI comes back will I even want him? I feel that we could never attain the level of trust that we had. I feel I am able to continue to move on and build a life without him with each day that passses. It helps that I met someone else who is incredibly amazing, sweet, kind and literally eveything my poi was not--yet, POI still holds a big chunk of my heart, which sucks. It's getting better though, luckily I never reached the stage of binging, but I did get readings excssively. It's been almost a month since my last reading
Dxbguppy1:
Let me understand, he's your husband or your partner? He broke up with you and got with someone else and now hes left her and wants to come back right?
Its going to take alot of time babe and you need to give yourself that time to decide.I dont think you can fake it (and you shouldnt even have to for his benefit he can sit and wait(. it will come naturally or it wont.
I'm feeling heartbroken tonight because now that hes back I dont think I can ever love him the same way again and thats a whole other thing accepting you might not even love the person you once loved so damn hard.
I think as women we try to rush through our feelings though as well. He left for a long time. He got on with life with someone else. Take your damn time too. You dont need to decide anything now. Let him earn his way back in
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