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Star_01:
Hi all, I wanted to make a post on here to clear a few things up. I didn't want to make this post because honestly I don't want to start arguing on here, people can be pretty nasty and personal with one another instead of having a healthy debate. But I want to vent on things which are kind of getting to me and others who privately write to me.
There are a few users recently who have just joined and keep defending some controversial readers recently in multiple postings saying "well this reader has been good for me, that reader has been good for me and the people writing bad things about this and that reader are mean and being unfair".
Like I said before in posts, just because a reader works for you, that doesn't mean that they haven't done underhand things outside of readings, or not been great for others. And I feel like people get way too defensive of readers, they're not our friends or family (unless they are and that's why you're defending them so much). But it happens often on here, I see people write "well I just tried this reader and the stuff said about them is not true at all" - well how can you know for sure just because you read for them and they were good for you, that they haven't done anything sketchy with other people? I think it's fair in saying that we can post a reader was good/not good but leave it at that, people are getting way too defensive sometimes of a reader and they don't know the full story. It's happened with a few people who have had sketchy experiences with certain readers and people get really defensive of the reader but if more than one person is coming out with evidence or doubtful of that reader, they surely all can't be wrong or against a reader for no reason? It's come to my mind to post this as it's something that, since being on this board I've heard from others, seen myself in arguments and been involved with. It leads to arguments often because people defend readers a little OTT. I'm not saying that readers don't get false things said about them ever and that's okay, but surely only the reader knows and can come on to defend themselves with their evidence. Being a customer who has read with a reader and just because they like that reader that doesn't mean you can come on and defend a reader and say they are clear of any wrongdoing. I hope people understand where I'm coming from. I'm sure many of us have been in a situation on here where we had someone get a little defensive without knowing the full story. I understand because a reader is good for you that you think well how can it be possible that they are behaving like that and doing certain things with someone else, but at the end of the day based on my experiences I've trusted readers too to then find out they weren't so innocent as made to be. All I'm saying is please let's all hear one another's individual experiences without putting the accusations down just because they were good for you. We all have our own stories and have a right to be here and have our say, and this forum is all about supporting and listening to each other without getting personal.
maggs30:
In my opinion I think when someone defends a reader it is because of their emotional state. Not saying that in a bad way. I know if I got a reading and was given what I truly believe will happen and someone said how horrible and wrong that reader is it definitely affects my emotions. In my case I get upset and depressed. Others may get upset and defensive to try to prove what they were told is right. I just pass over the arguments and try to weight the good readings with the bad on any particular reader.
Star_01:
--- Quote from: maggs30 on September 29, 2019, 02:16:42 PM ---In my opinion I think when someone defends a reader it is because of their emotional state. Not saying that in a bad way. I know if I got a reading and was given what I truly believe will happen and someone said how horrible and wrong that reader is it definitely affects my emotions. In my case I get upset and depressed. Others may get upset and defensive to try to prove what they were told is right. I just pass over the arguments and try to weight the good readings with the bad on any particular reader.
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I understand what you're saying. I have defended readers in the past also (and been accused of being them) because they told me something positive, such as the ex was going to come back and for someone else to come along and say "oh don't trust them" made me panic and doubt my readings. It's just a common theme that people defend a reader and there are two sides to a story. People are feeling uncomfortable to post because they may be accused of lying or whatever else and that's not fair. That's the whole point of these forums, to be honest and write reviews - good or bad.
maggs30:
Yeah its not cool when people are uncomfortable to post. It helps no one when we can't post honest reviews.
Star_01:
--- Quote from: maggs30 on September 29, 2019, 02:24:32 PM ---Yeah its not cool when people are uncomfortable to post. It helps no one when we can't post honest reviews.
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