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How much time it too much time?
Cteebaby1:
Omg I was in the same situation with my first love! It took me 5 years from start to finish for our soul contract to be finished. Once I moved on I was gone for good. The first time I saw him before we even met was at the mall where I worked. I had just turned 18 and I worked at Abercrombie kids. I saw him walk by and something told me he was going to have a huge impact on my life. I was too shy to say anything. He was my friend on Facebook and I started to take notice of him more and more. I finally decided to send a message and he replied. We talked for hours and traded numbers. We texted for every single day nonstop. Then we met up. Long story short that first year was okay. It wasn’t spectacular because we were young and dumb. I had deep feelings for him from the get go. He went back and forth between me and someone else for 5 months. He was mostly with me though so I didn’t care. At times he pulled back and that’s when I did the no contact rule and it always worked. The first time was for 5 weeks. He contacted on the fifth week. After awhile we started living together and that’s when it became quite abusive. I was super insecure and would start arguments over any little thing. We would fight and it was bad. He would break my phone and take my money. Then one day we stopped talking to for like 6 months. I was so depressed the whole 6 months as I was still attached! He came back the 6th month and things were going good . Things were so much better we didn’t fight as much & I found my confidence. I was going out more with friends. To be honest I was dating around. I met new men and communicated with them. During that time I met my son’s father POI 2. We weren’t dating though just communicating on a daily basis. Texting only. By early 2017 my first love (POI 1) said he was moving out of the state to North Carolina. I was sad but happy for him and honestly it really didn’t bother me. We spent Valentine’s Day together so that was lovely. By this time my POI 2 and I started seeing each other but I didn’t really care for him during this time it was just casual. So my first love left to another state and I was seeing poi 2 every week maybe once a week. I FORGOT TO ADD THAT I WAS GETTING READINGS DAMN NEAR EVERY WEEK, 3 TIMES A WEEK.
Anywho, I started falling for my poi2. Then I got pregnant by him. Two months later my POI 1 said he was moving back. I told him about the situation and he was hurt but he said he’ll be there for me. He moved back in with me but I didn’t ask him to! I was still seeing my child’s father . Every time I would try to tell him about my POI 2 he’ll shut me down and get mad. Then he would take my phone and call my poi 2 and curse him out. He controlled me my whole pregnancy. Then one day I was otp with my poi 2 he was so angry he hit me so I got in my car and left. He took my bank card and left. Eventually he gave it back. We stopped talking for like a week. Then he showed up at my house starting a fight . That’s when I knew we were done for good. I didn’t talk to him anymore after. However he’s still around because he pops back up every other month even to this day apologizing and trying to make things right. So sometimes it doesn’t matter how long it’s been if the soul contract isn’t over it’ll keep coming back. You’ll know in your heart when it’s done and over. It won’t even take that long to heal. Now I’m in a whole other situation with my POI 2 (son’s father) . Both men played a huge role in my life.
Cteebaby1:
So in other words it took my first love 6 months to reach out before. My feelings were still so strong I still didn’t move on. Not saying everyone should wait because every situation is different. But sometimes things really have to play out and if you feel so strongly pulled to a person or situation it might not be over. During that time psychic were saying it’s not over he’ll come back around but just couldn’t get a timeline . I’m not gonna lie sir cheo was probably the only one to say November . I don’t remember the ones I talked to just him because he was right lol.
Candy:
Wow! Thanks for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear about all that you’ve been through. For those of you who have gotten that sense of “knowing” that someone will play a significant part in your life at first meeting, or love at first sight, or that feeling that you’ve known someone for a long time the first few moments you two meet...what do you make of it?? How can you explain it? And is it usually correct that that person will play a significant role in your life?
I had a situation like that recently — where I met someone completely unexpectedly at a business function — and I could not explain this intense pull, a connection that I have no idea what to make of. Anyhow, he has been on my mind, and it’s complicated due to long distance and professional boundaries that I would prefer not to cross. Anyhow, it’s tough because I have no idea how he truly feels l, but it’s also a connection that I can’t deny.
--- Quote from: Cteebaby1 on August 05, 2019, 05:49:33 PM ---Omg I was in the same situation with my first love! It took me 5 years from start to finish for our soul contract to be finished. Once I moved on I was gone for good. The first time I saw him before we even met was at the mall where I worked. I had just turned 18 and I worked at Abercrombie kids. I saw him walk by and something told me he was going to have a huge impact on my life. I was too shy to say anything. He was my friend on Facebook and I started to take notice of him more and more. I finally decided to send a message and he replied. We talked for hours and traded numbers. We texted for every single day nonstop. Then we met up. Long story short that first year was okay. It wasn’t spectacular because we were young and dumb. I had deep feelings for him from the get go. He went back and forth between me and someone else for 5 months. He was mostly with me though so I didn’t care. At times he pulled back and that’s when I did the no contact rule and it always worked. The first time was for 5 weeks. He contacted on the fifth week. After awhile we started living together and that’s when it became quite abusive. I was super insecure and would start arguments over any little thing. We would fight and it was bad. He would break my phone and take my money. Then one day we stopped talking to for like 6 months. I was so depressed the whole 6 months as I was still attached! He came back the 6th month and things were going good . Things were so much better we didn’t fight as much & I found my confidence. I was going out more with friends. To be honest I was dating around. I met new men and communicated with them. During that time I met my son’s father POI 2. We weren’t dating though just communicating on a daily basis. Texting only. By early 2017 my first love (POI 1) said he was moving out of the state to North Carolina. I was sad but happy for him and honestly it really didn’t bother me. We spent Valentine’s Day together so that was lovely. By this time my POI 2 and I started seeing each other but I didn’t really care for him during this time it was just casual. So my first love left to another state and I was seeing poi 2 every week maybe once a week. I FORGOT TO ADD THAT I WAS GETTING READINGS DAMN NEAR EVERY WEEK, 3 TIMES A WEEK.
Anywho, I started falling for my poi2. Then I got pregnant by him. Two months later my POI 1 said he was moving back. I told him about the situation and he was hurt but he said he’ll be there for me. He moved back in with me but I didn’t ask him to! I was still seeing my child’s father . Every time I would try to tell him about my POI 2 he’ll shut me down and get mad. Then he would take my phone and call my poi 2 and curse him out. He controlled me my whole pregnancy. Then one day I was otp with my poi 2 he was so angry he hit me so I got in my car and left. He took my bank card and left. Eventually he gave it back. We stopped talking for like a week. Then he showed up at my house starting a fight . That’s when I knew we were done for good. I didn’t talk to him anymore after. However he’s still around because he pops back up every other month even to this day apologizing and trying to make things right. So sometimes it doesn’t matter how long it’s been if the soul contract isn’t over it’ll keep coming back. You’ll know in your heart when it’s done and over. It won’t even take that long to heal. Now I’m in a whole other situation with my POI 2 (son’s father) . Both men played a huge role in my life.
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Yaz88:
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--- Quote from: Silverlightnmoom on August 05, 2019, 03:32:40 PM ---Ok I’m about to come with the sledgehammer but if I learned anything in my ripe old age of 29, if your poi (guy or gal) does not make any attempt of reach out to you within 3 months (and that’s being generous) MOVE ON. This person is not “suffering” they are living their life without you at this point. Move on, move on, move on. They are not pining after you or giving you the time of day like you are giving them. They are not. Stop filling your head and tricking yourself to think they are because as humans we shield ourselves from the bad to cope with a loss. You need to feel to heal. Feel for your loss and then move on! Time is the most valuable thing on this planet, you will never get it back. Invest it in things and people who will invest in you. Set boundaries early in your relationships, and the person willing to put in the time and effort will be the one who wins your heart. I will say it here but I got my poi, we share a home together and build on our love everyday. The ONLY psychic to get big outcome predictions of what’s actually happening in my life right now was a known scammer. What does that tell you? Move on with your life friends. You only get one.
I’m stepping off my soapbox. Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
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In principal, I have to agree with everything you have to say. However in practice, sometimes we just can’t seem to get over someone, can’t forget them, because we aren’t supposed to just yet. Before my current POI, there was another POI that I didn’t think I’d ever get over. Anytime I tried, his name (which is not common) would randomly appear or I’d hear a parent calling to their child who had that name. Other times, he’d resurface and the toxic wheel would once again start spinning. It took me 22 months to finally get over him. Eleven months from the last time I saw him, and 5 months from our last point of contact. Luckily, back then I had no idea about Keen or any of the other similar platforms. I would have bankrupted myself. Instead I’d go to a few local readers (who were all correct in hindsight) or spend hours listening to YouTube Tarot readers. Here’s the thing. My first POI served a purpose. Once I was able to understand that purpose, I was at peace. I also met my current POI, which helped me realize that there are other people who you can come to care about and be attracted to. Strangely enough, I recently reached out to my first POI, and he did respond. I have no desire to rekindle anything with him, but since he was such a huge influence in my spiritual journey and growth, my soul is content knowing that the energy between us has neutralized (it was the type of relationship with mountain peak highs and crying in a heap on the shower floor lows).
So sometimes, it’s not over because it isn’t supposed to be. I will say that for my second POI, I’m more inclined to move on because the life lessons I learned from POI #1 don’t need to be relearned. It’s time for balance, an equal give and take.
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I know what you mean. One of my relationships was very toxic, I was being violently abused and verbally, aswell as being used. The ex would message me all sweet and lovely and I'd fall for it. Then it would be could I borrow some money or could you help me with something... Then I helped him and he started arguments or made excuses to go off again blocking me, making me look bad and return again unblocking me in the same cycle. I didn't get readings on him but I knew deep down that he did not care like everyone was saying too, but they were telling me to get rid and only I could do that when I had had enough. And 2 years on, one day I snapped and had had enough and blocked him for good. I felt like I needed to learn lessons and realise for myself.
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I am so sorry that you had to go through that, Star. But you made it! You walked away. With pain, comes growth, and the ability to have compassion for others. What some of these POI’s manage to teach us? Yes, we deserve to be loved. Yes, we deserve a relationship where we are validated and made a priority. If you are willing to do all that for someone, they need to be willing to do it for you.
Cteebaby1:
Yeah I had that “feeling” that there’s more to this story. A reader that I still read with now said he was a pastlife soul mate which makes sense to me. She said he was my son in a past life. That clicked to me because he always run to me for help even now like I’m his mom or something. In readings with my POI 2 various readers would get past life cards with him too where we were a family. I’ve only had 1 past life reading but I forgot most of it lol.
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