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sawthelight:
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--- Quote from: Dreamer23 on June 24, 2019, 06:00:04 PM ---I was in a similar place, I accepted seeing POI casually because psychics told me that we are going to work out. But it never moved beyond that.
I didn't listen to my own feelings and I listened to the psychics who told me a positive outcome. Eventually I got fed up with it and stopped. Now I hope to never be in such a situation again, where I accept something I am not really okay with, because of someone predicting a bright future for me.
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Same situation...and looking back, I feel so used. And I feel I've come a really long way, because if that man ever tried to pull with me now what he did then, I would literally tell him to F off. Or if ANY man tried that crap...I would NEVER entertain it.
I look back wonder what I was thinking but yea, a lot of it was that the readings were telling me that this guy would eventually commit..
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Hi @sawthelight ... I can totally relate. I would typically NOT be okay with a friends for benefits situation, but I bent my rules (and this was my mistake) because I consulted a few psychics and they all told me that we are meant to be, and that if I want this to work I have to just go along with whatever is happening. I wanted it to work so badly that I chose to bend my rules for this dude. Never again. I am still somewhat damaged from everything that happened and trying to not feel like I was used. It's hard but I am hoping with every day that passes, I will continue to heal more and more.
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sorry to hear you went through something similar. You will heal! each day that passes makes it a little easier, you just have to get to that acceptance stage..I also bent my rules, BIG TIME, for this guy and will never do so again. And maybe that was my lesson, who knows?
I had psychics tell me same stuff, oh just be there for him and go along with what he wants, and things will fall together...seriously??? I can't believe I even believed it now, looking back.
Dreamer23:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on June 24, 2019, 07:24:14 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dreamer23 on June 24, 2019, 07:21:47 PM ---
--- Quote from: sawthelight on June 24, 2019, 06:27:27 PM ---
--- Quote from: Dreamer23 on June 24, 2019, 06:00:04 PM ---I was in a similar place, I accepted seeing POI casually because psychics told me that we are going to work out. But it never moved beyond that.
I didn't listen to my own feelings and I listened to the psychics who told me a positive outcome. Eventually I got fed up with it and stopped. Now I hope to never be in such a situation again, where I accept something I am not really okay with, because of someone predicting a bright future for me.
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Same situation...and looking back, I feel so used. And I feel I've come a really long way, because if that man ever tried to pull with me now what he did then, I would literally tell him to F off. Or if ANY man tried that crap...I would NEVER entertain it.
I look back wonder what I was thinking but yea, a lot of it was that the readings were telling me that this guy would eventually commit..
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Hi @sawthelight ... I can totally relate. I would typically NOT be okay with a friends for benefits situation, but I bent my rules (and this was my mistake) because I consulted a few psychics and they all told me that we are meant to be, and that if I want this to work I have to just go along with whatever is happening. I wanted it to work so badly that I chose to bend my rules for this dude. Never again. I am still somewhat damaged from everything that happened and trying to not feel like I was used. It's hard but I am hoping with every day that passes, I will continue to heal more and more.
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sorry to hear you went through something similar. You will heal! each day that passes makes it a little easier, you just have to get to that acceptance stage..I also bent my rules, BIG TIME, for this guy and will never do so again. And maybe that was my lesson, who knows?
I had psychics tell me same stuff, oh just be there for him and go along with what he wants, and things will fall together...seriously??? I can't believe I even believed it now, looking back.
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Thank you! I appreciate the encouragement. I can very much relate. I feel the same, looking back at my behaviors I wonder what on earth was I thinking...
sawthelight:
:) Love can make us doing crazy things!
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: diamondcanadian on June 24, 2019, 07:32:36 PM ---Wow guys , I didn’t expect such a response. I was definitely in a dark place last night , and been feeling pretty miserable today. Over what ? A guy who hasn’t offered me anything more than sex? Who said that that’s all he wanted? It’s because these top readers have all been saying the same thing.
It will become more . And I didn’t believe yona when she said he’d be back in the first place , yet here we are , miserable again after I let him back in my life after 5 months of silence .
I have a feeling deep down he does actually want more but is scared of commitment . But that shits no good for me . I want commitment and I want to be happy .
Why am I doing this to myself ? Because I want that connection with him and i convince myself if he gives me that time , he’ll feel it too.
Fuck sake . I am a very stupid girl.
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You're not stupid...you have a big heart. Unfortunately, it makes us susceptible to people who take advantage. You deserve better and will find better..whatever his reasons may be for not committing to you are not your problem..remember that. And it's also his loss. HUGS!
Jeninmd2:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on June 24, 2019, 07:43:03 PM ---
--- Quote from: diamondcanadian on June 24, 2019, 07:32:36 PM ---Wow guys , I didn’t expect such a response. I was definitely in a dark place last night , and been feeling pretty miserable today. Over what ? A guy who hasn’t offered me anything more than sex? Who said that that’s all he wanted? It’s because these top readers have all been saying the same thing.
It will become more . And I didn’t believe yona when she said he’d be back in the first place , yet here we are , miserable again after I let him back in my life after 5 months of silence .
I have a feeling deep down he does actually want more but is scared of commitment . But that shits no good for me . I want commitment and I want to be happy .
Why am I doing this to myself ? Because I want that connection with him and i convince myself if he gives me that time , he’ll feel it too.
Fuck sake . I am a very stupid girl.
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You're not stupid...you have a big heart. Unfortunately, it makes us susceptible to people who take advantage. You deserve better and will find better..whatever his reasons may be for not committing to you are not your problem..remember that. And it's also his loss. HUGS!
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Perfectly said!!!
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