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Deleting my dating apps
sparky:
As a guy, the online dating scene sucks and I wonder why I am even trying it. Most of the girls are very hesitant for very valid reasons. I wouldn't want to be getting a bunch of dick pics all the time if I was in your shoes either. I think the main thing is that chivalry is dying off and online dating has showed how bad it is going away. The worst of it is the guys that actually want to date and meet someone get lost with all the dicks out there. So it gets nerve racking and makes them want to quit as well. Just making the problem worse.
Sparkle002:
--- Quote from: sparky on June 18, 2019, 03:05:54 PM ---As a guy, the online dating scene sucks and I wonder why I am even trying it. Most of the girls are very hesitant for very valid reasons. I wouldn't want to be getting a bunch of dick pics all the time if I was in your shoes either. I think the main thing is that chivalry is dying off and online dating has showed how bad it is going away. The worst of it is the guys that actually want to date and meet someone get lost with all the dicks out there. So it gets nerve racking and makes them want to quit as well. Just making the problem worse.
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So glad to see a guy's perspective on this! I just question all the time why are guys suck dicks on these apps? Its just insane. It messes it up for everyone and clearly has a ripple affect on decent guys like you
sawthelight:
I was never into dating apps and the like...I would rather meet someone in person, as old fashioned as that sounds. Although, I have heard some success stories, so I guess it's luck of the draw..but overall, not really for me.
So many skeeveballs on those sites, married men looking for flings, disgusting.
HornetKick:
The problem with dating apps/online dating is that people don't stay with it long enough. With this option of dating, you really have to go through 100 or more frogs until a good one comes along. And eventually you do meet face to face. Dating online is no different than meeting someone in person because that person can be lying to you just like an online person. I've heard some horror stories and some success stories. There are a lot more people online in this day and age, so it stands to reason you'll meet more people than you would the traditional face2face way. You just have to give it time to see what transpires, plus keep an open mind and date....a lot.
sparky:
--- Quote from: HornetKick on June 18, 2019, 03:39:44 PM ---The problem with dating apps/online dating is that people don't stay with it long enough. With this option of dating, you really have to go through 100 or more frogs until a good one comes along. And eventually you do meet face to face. Dating online is no different than meeting someone in person because that person can be lying to you just like an online person. I've heard some horror stories and some success stories. There are a lot more people online in this day and age, so it stands to reason you'll meet more people than you would the traditional face2face way. You just have to give it time to see what transpires, plus keep an open mind and date....a lot.
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Hornet does have a point as a lot of people do give it up quick but I don't blame them for doing so with how crappy it can be. At least with meeting some one the old fashion way in person has a the potential to weed out a lot of the people you have no common interests in. Where as in the online dating world it can be a free for all.
One thing I heard and would like to see more stats on it is that I believe online dating isn't a long term solution. Yes they can get married but I don't think it is the 50 years like you hear about like my grandparents or my parents. Not sure if that is because the relationship started as more of a custom order sort of thing online compared to the old fashion way. Maybe morals have changed so much that really long term committed relationships are a thing of the past. I would really love to see how many of the online relationships that resulted in marriage get to 50 years. It will be quite awhile before a stat like that will ever be concluded since online dating is what 20 maybe 30 years old if you include that video dating back in the 80's and early 90's. I would though like to see that stat of how many online dating relationships actually resulted in a long marriage and not a divorce in a few years. You know those sites and apps will never tell you that info.
--- Quote from: Sparkle002 on June 18, 2019, 03:23:12 PM ---
--- Quote from: sparky on June 18, 2019, 03:05:54 PM ---As a guy, the online dating scene sucks and I wonder why I am even trying it. Most of the girls are very hesitant for very valid reasons. I wouldn't want to be getting a bunch of dick pics all the time if I was in your shoes either. I think the main thing is that chivalry is dying off and online dating has showed how bad it is going away. The worst of it is the guys that actually want to date and meet someone get lost with all the dicks out there. So it gets nerve racking and makes them want to quit as well. Just making the problem worse.
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So glad to see a guy's perspective on this! I just question all the time why are guys suck dicks on these apps? Its just insane. It messes it up for everyone and clearly has a ripple affect on decent guys like you
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It's actually quite simple. It is because they know they can get away with it and have no repercussions of it. If they did that in public it would be jail time for indecent exposure or some other kind of law breaking. So they send it and the girl gets upset and never talked to them. They don't care and if a girl responds then great. They got the attention they wanted.
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