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I Spent Thousands of Dollars

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flora0250:

--- Quote from: Zzib on June 11, 2019, 02:15:52 AM ---How do you guys forgive yourself after spending nearly 7k from April-June  on psychic readings? I feel awful and just for a guy, I can’t believe it. I can say I’ve been 3 days psychic free and hope to keep it that way. But I feel so awful about spending all that I had

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The only thing I can do is be thankful I stopped and looked at just how much I spent. Even though I’ve still had a small number since I did that - it has been eye opening and very upsetting. But I guess I think you know people spend money on lots of things - cigarettes, going out for drinks, expensive hair cuts - all things I used to do in my life and over 19 months if I smoked a pack a day and did those other things or something else - well I’d probably spent an equal amount. So I guess I see it that way. And just move forward and try not to be too hard on myself in terms of judging the behavior. Just look it in the eye and realize no, you don’t have the money for this and it’s not at all work what you’ve spent.

When I think of how much I spent on cigarettes and what damage that did to my body over years - it’s similar.

Shubhra:
hugss......it happened..
Please please please just think that is this person worth it.

Do you even want him back.

Please dont mess your life for a a$$*^%#

lots of love and prayers your way

sanshine:
Still tired ---->>> THIS is really insightful ... "I think before all of this, I only saw value in what I could "do" to produce an outcome, and that was what drove me to keep trying to fix things that weren't working. And I thought of what I gave from within myself as "free" like listening, caring, etc. so I didn't see how much it was costing me to care about people who didn't care that much in return. Now I see that whatever I give of myself has value, and if I give too much away it has a literal cost to my life that requires extra time, money, and other resources to recover."

I spent an embarassing amount of money (like 6 digits embarassing) over four years. I couldn't really believe how people who said they care about me could behave towards me, and it blew me off-center really easily. I have had to learn how to be generous with myself first - it was hard, and that surprised and disappointed me. I thought I was in better shape than I actually was. I learned (still learning) discernment and how my generosity doesnt translate into other people being generous with me. So I watch for that now. I'm also much clearer about how sensitive I am and how that has to be cherished, protected and valued by ME.  I gave people way too much credit and treated them like peers when in fact many dont have a clue what they are doing energetically, and I cant fix that. Knowledge hard won.

I have been here for quite a while, just reading. So first post here today and Still Tired, thanks.

sanshine:
Still Tired - agreed its key to learn that emotional consideration isnt a 'giveaway'. Hopefully in my learning I can pass some of it along to other sensitives and at least spread out the 'personal cost' that learning has been for me. I have been working in a committed way with some healers that have good integrity that have helped me get the energetic space and boundaries in better shape. Here's to not being taken advantage of in the future. I still get readings with a few readers from time to time but I'm not feeling the emotional abandonment, deprivation and desperation any more. It also has helped a ton to put boundaries around people who are too dramatic for me. Peace is where its at.

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