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Sweetsydney2000:
Have you tried the 30 day no contact rule? That’s what I always aspire to do but we never last that long without contact. Who has predicted contact correctly for you in the past? Is there anyone else involved?

LivingInYellow:
I've tried the no contact rule. The issue is that I think I've played myself over the last few years. He definitely thinks I'm always going to come back to him, but I feel differently this time. I think that minimum, we would need at least 3-6 months of no contact before he would even register my absence as being long term. My impatience has meant that predictions have never really come to pass before I've tried to change things, but I'm in a different space now. I've got a few contact predictions lined for between this month (Late May) and Spring 2020. So, this time next year, I'll be in a perfect position to say whose contact prediction was accurate - if at all. With that said, I've been told that by the time he comes around, I probably won't want him or be able to leave the past behind and I'm starting to realise this too. There have been a few other people involved in the situation, tbh and that's what makes forgiveness and moving into a new relationship with him difficult.

All I know is that I am using this time to understand myself and see what else is out there for me. It's funny because I find myself asking about my love life generally these days and not him! I have two holidays scheduled and I'm so busy at work - it hurts sometimes!  Just hope these dreams don't go on forever!

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