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Fidget1028:

--- Quote from: happyk on March 27, 2019, 01:27:55 AM ---I really hope that's what the Universe is saying because I have seen people with shitty lives who just fucking die never getting what they want. I don't want to be one of them. @Fidget I don't want to be at a point where I am like I'll take the douche with the tinfoil hat. Does he at least have a 1999 Toyota if not a horse?

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That's exactly why I've developed a sense of humor about the whole thing. I'm not making fun of your situation. I know exactly where you are, believe me on that. We are definitely meant for better than this. But we do have to love ourselves first. For real. If we (and I certainly include myself in this) loved ourselves more and spent as much time on ourselves as we do on our POIs, I think we could actually be happier than we think. I don't know your circumstance, but my life really isn't that bad. I'd love to share it with someone, but my happiness doesn't really depend on it.

happyk:

--- Quote from: Fidget1028 on March 27, 2019, 01:41:39 AM ---
--- Quote from: happyk on March 27, 2019, 01:27:55 AM ---I really hope that's what the Universe is saying because I have seen people with shitty lives who just fucking die never getting what they want. I don't want to be one of them. @Fidget I don't want to be at a point where I am like I'll take the douche with the tinfoil hat. Does he at least have a 1999 Toyota if not a horse?

--- End quote ---

That's exactly why I've developed a sense of humor about the whole thing. I'm not making fun of your situation. I know exactly where you are, believe me on that. We are definitely meant for better than this. But we do have to love ourselves first. For real. If we (and I certainly include myself in this) loved ourselves more and spent as much time on ourselves as we do on our POIs, I think we could actually be happier than we think. I don't know your circumstance, but my life really isn't that bad. I'd love to share it with someone, but my happiness doesn't really depend on it.

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Hi Fidget, I know you are not making fun of my situation at all because most of us here are on the same boat. I tried loving myself and boy am I in debt lol (I even got a pair of really cute Michael Kors shades today). What would you say loving yourself is? I try to eat healthy and exercise and that feels like torture and I cry literally, and that doesn't feel like love lol. I buy myself pretty things but I can't seem to stop and shopping turns into another addiction. I do nice things for myself, I do not have a low self esteem (at least I don't think I do, but who fucking knows, I am running after a man who broke up with me 3 months ago ). So Fidget, help a sister out. And I promise I am not being sarcastic, it's a genuine question.

Fidget1028:

--- Quote from: happyk on March 27, 2019, 01:50:46 AM ---
--- Quote from: Fidget1028 on March 27, 2019, 01:41:39 AM ---
--- Quote from: happyk on March 27, 2019, 01:27:55 AM ---I really hope that's what the Universe is saying because I have seen people with shitty lives who just fucking die never getting what they want. I don't want to be one of them. @Fidget I don't want to be at a point where I am like I'll take the douche with the tinfoil hat. Does he at least have a 1999 Toyota if not a horse?

--- End quote ---

That's exactly why I've developed a sense of humor about the whole thing. I'm not making fun of your situation. I know exactly where you are, believe me on that. We are definitely meant for better than this. But we do have to love ourselves first. For real. If we (and I certainly include myself in this) loved ourselves more and spent as much time on ourselves as we do on our POIs, I think we could actually be happier than we think. I don't know your circumstance, but my life really isn't that bad. I'd love to share it with someone, but my happiness doesn't really depend on it.

--- End quote ---

Hi Fidget, I know you are not making fun of my situation at all because most of us here are on the same boat. I tried loving myself and boy am I in debt lol (I even got a pair of really cute Michael Kors shades today). What would you say loving yourself is? I try to eat healthy and exercise and that feels like torture and I cry literally, and that doesn't feel like love lol. I buy myself pretty things but I can't seem to stop and shopping turns into another addiction. I do nice things for myself, I do not have a low self esteem (at least I don't think I do, but who fucking knows, I am running after a man who broke up with me 3 months ago ). So Fidget, help a sister out. And I promise I am not being sarcastic, it's a genuine question.

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Oh, I don't know if I have the answer. I do know that there was a time, before I met my POI, when I was single and I was truly happy. I try to go back to that. What was it that made me ok then? Well, I wasn't calling psychics everyday for sure. I was redecorating my home. Getting together with girlfriends. Spending time with my kids. Gardening. I think of that now and wonder why that doesn't give me the same satisfaction. It's because I had goals for myself then. And it was truly for myself. I mean I didn't have a man in my life. I was doing things just. for. me. I'm trying to get back in that mindset. And yes, I'm broke too, but I was more broke then coming out of my divorce. It was the enthusiasm of being a fully independent woman. I'm trying to find that again. I'm getting there. It's a day by day thing. I know that if I can get back to being that woman, that I would attract any man, because she was damn strong and sexy. She's wasn't this needy, insecure shell that exists today. Maybe that's the key.

happyk:

--- Quote from: Fidget1028 on March 27, 2019, 02:09:14 AM ---
--- Quote from: happyk on March 27, 2019, 01:50:46 AM ---
--- Quote from: Fidget1028 on March 27, 2019, 01:41:39 AM ---
--- Quote from: happyk on March 27, 2019, 01:27:55 AM ---I really hope that's what the Universe is saying because I have seen people with shitty lives who just fucking die never getting what they want. I don't want to be one of them. @Fidget I don't want to be at a point where I am like I'll take the douche with the tinfoil hat. Does he at least have a 1999 Toyota if not a horse?

--- End quote ---

That's exactly why I've developed a sense of humor about the whole thing. I'm not making fun of your situation. I know exactly where you are, believe me on that. We are definitely meant for better than this. But we do have to love ourselves first. For real. If we (and I certainly include myself in this) loved ourselves more and spent as much time on ourselves as we do on our POIs, I think we could actually be happier than we think. I don't know your circumstance, but my life really isn't that bad. I'd love to share it with someone, but my happiness doesn't really depend on it.

--- End quote ---

Hi Fidget, I know you are not making fun of my situation at all because most of us here are on the same boat. I tried loving myself and boy am I in debt lol (I even got a pair of really cute Michael Kors shades today). What would you say loving yourself is? I try to eat healthy and exercise and that feels like torture and I cry literally, and that doesn't feel like love lol. I buy myself pretty things but I can't seem to stop and shopping turns into another addiction. I do nice things for myself, I do not have a low self esteem (at least I don't think I do, but who fucking knows, I am running after a man who broke up with me 3 months ago ). So Fidget, help a sister out. And I promise I am not being sarcastic, it's a genuine question.

--- End quote ---

Oh, I don't know if I have the answer. I do know that there was a time, before I met my POI, when I was single and I was truly happy. I try to go back to that. What was it that made me ok then? Well, I wasn't calling psychics everyday for sure. I was redecorating my home. Getting together with girlfriends. Spending time with my kids. Gardening. I think of that now and wonder why that doesn't give me the same satisfaction. It's because I had goals for myself then. And it was truly for myself. I mean I didn't have a man in my life. I was doing things just. for. me. I'm trying to get back in that mindset. And yes, I'm broke too, but I was more broke then coming out of my divorce. It was the enthusiasm of being a fully independent woman. I'm trying to find that again. I'm getting there. It's a day by day thing. I know that if I can get back to being that woman, that I would attract any man, because she was damn strong and sexy. She's wasn't this needy, insecure shell that exists today. Maybe that's the key.

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Your story sounds exactly like mine! Not even kidding. The only difference is that I don't have kids. I am getting there but still with that guy in the back of my head. I have done a lot better in terms of readings too. Fingers crossed Fidget, we will get through it :)

tacobelle914:
I just wanted to chime in and say that it's amazing you guys have a sense of humor about everything, and that you are doing great!

Everyone just wants happiness, and when we get anxious while waiting for that happiness it is easy to turn to someone (anyone!) or something that can put our minds at ease. Eventually we realize the power we have within... which I see you have done. Congrats because that really is a huge step in my opinion.

It's funny when I think of manifesting my desires and LoA because I truly do believe it... and yet it's so easy sometimes to get distracted or manifest something unintentionally! At least you manifested a perfume that you like haha

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