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Feeling Bitter
WinterElf:
I am going through a lot of emotions and anxiety while getting myself off of readings. I feel like getting readings really mess up the energy or chances of being in a relationship. I feel like something is wrong with me after talking with a psychic, like I will never be whole or good enough to have a man. I workout , i am respectful to people, i dont cause drama, etc but I do have an air of apprehension when meeting someone. Usually i call a psychic before even going on the date. No one is perfect so why is it that i see people with issues in loving relationships .. .for EXAMPLE...
My former teacher, a convicted child molester, is now in a relationship with this gorgeous guy who treats her like a queen.
A woman who dresses up as a goth has a man even when wearing pig snouts out in public.
The 300 pound woman who does not put much into her outer looks but has a great personaity has a cute guy.
My mom has a husband after her failed marriage with my abusive dad.
This woman who is okay looking but with a horrible personality/anger issues has a great guy.
Then there is me who has been told by psychics that the POI pulled away because of some minor thing I said or did... huh??
I am seeing all these people in relationships who are not perfect and go their own way and they have someone. No one is perfect but when going to readings, i get this feeling from psychics that something is wrong with me as to why i am not in a relationship and the guy will always pick another woman over me. It tears down my self esteem.
How many people here got into a relationship while on psychic binges or calling psychics? How many people here felt stable after calling a psychic ? Why is it every time we call them, there is some hidden issue or drama coming up? I dont get it and I am so freaking frustrated as to why I never get into relationships when I go to psychics for advice and I am trying to stop. :-[ :-[ :-[
WinterElf:
Oh and can you imagine for 20 years being told that "HE aint the one, the next guy is." Or "YOu will meet him in Spring in a park or at a function" Again, being told this for 20 years is insane... Meanwhile the POI moves on with someone and marries them after the psychic usually tells me that he does not ever want to settle down and he wants his freedom or to just date.
But then they are good at pegging down the present situation or the POI's personality. Fancy cold reading?? I am so ANGRY about how I let this ruin my life.
Love2lovenj:
Honestly you can't beat yourself over this. Look at it as a lesson learned. You know that these reading were like a ball and chain and now that you recognize it you can set yourself free. Only you can do this. You have the power to better yourself and life so don't keep yourself in this negative state and rise above it. You can do it. I honestly believe you attract what you are radiating. So if you love yourself others will also love you. If you are in a negative state of mind you will only be attracting negative things. Mainly because you can't see the positive things around you. Its the glass is half empty look of things.
WinterElf:
Thank you. I have been doing self love meditations this week and things were looking good but as soon as I got off the psychic reading binge, a lot of anger and self hate crept in. I know it wont be easy but I will keep doing the self love meditations by this woman on youtube called Agnes.
Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it. :'( :'( :'(
doubleoh8:
--- Quote from: Love2lovenj on February 27, 2019, 06:21:19 PM ---Honestly you can't beat yourself over this. Look at it as a lesson learned. You know that these reading were like a ball and chain and now that you recognize it you can set yourself free. Only you can do this. You have the power to better yourself and life so don't keep yourself in this negative state and rise above it. You can do it. I honestly believe you attract what you are radiating. So if you love yourself others will also love you. If you are in a negative state of mind you will only be attracting negative things. Mainly because you can't see the positive things around you. Its the glass is half empty look of things.
--- End quote ---
@Elf, I was going to say much of the same. Know that now you've decided to stop, you can do it. You have set the wheels in motion by coming on here and stating your intention, as well as by writing about it and finding those techniques. Now try to be gentle with yourself and accept that there is a reason that you went down this path... and now there is the opportunity for a new path.
I know the advice of practicing self-love sounds so cliche and can be hard to do, but try to do small things that say 'I love you' to you. Gifts, baths, massage, little trips.... and as you do them think and feel love and kindness for yourself. And maybe instead of being angry at yourself and looking back at the 20 years, try to look forward and think 'I am so grateful that I see this for what it is now and I have a chance to start again'.
Not sure if that's a lot of help, but I just wanted to say something because your posts have helped me... and I appreciate your openness and courage for sharing your story.
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