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Carmella720:

--- Quote from: Still tired on February 26, 2019, 04:52:05 PM ---It may help to write down all the things readers have told you so you can actually see it on a page. It used to just swirl around in my thoughts all the time. That's why I started taking notes of what they said during and after calls. It is different than recording and listening over again because it makes it more objective. You can just look more at the information they give rather than being caught up in how it affects your emotions. A lot of times I thought a reading made sense and it made me feel better. But when I read my notes later it was just total BS, vague comments and nothing practical. I believe taking notes probably helped me more than anything because it showed me how little practical information I got from readings. I had to think about how much I spent and if I had known this is what the result would be, would I have paid that much for it. In most cases no I would not.

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YES. I actually can see exactly where you are coming from and how you could feel better etc.. then looking back like.. oh wow that was just generic. I have noticed this!

journalmuse:
Don't beat yourself up too much. You did something in a moment of genuine need. You aren't the first person to do this and you won't be the last.

What's important is focusing on what you're going to do differently going forward. Knowledge and awareness of where you are and how that's different from where you want to be is a really important step and that's exactly where you are. Take a minute to feel bad and then make a better plan. You can do it.

Snow-white8:

--- Quote from: journalmuse on February 26, 2019, 04:16:47 PM ---Hi Carmella, first don't be ashamed. I can guarantee that many, many people reading your post feel the same way and have done the same things.

I have been in your spot and here's what I did to break that cycle:

1. I started keeping transcripts of old readings. When I felt like I wanted to get a reading with someone, I would go back through these transcripts and it helped keep me from getting another one. I could either see: A) Nothing they said came true or B) I still have some predictions pending and should wait it out longer.

2. I started keeping track of when I was most likely to go call a bunch of psychics. That means A) Keeping track of patterns. When was I doing this mostly? Nights, weekends? (For me, it's weekend nights.) B) Any triggers for it. Did something happen that was driving me to do this? (For me, it's fear. Usually triggered by silence from my ex.)

3. Once I had figured out some of what was triggering me, and likely times that I might want to do that, I started filling up those times with activities. I took up knitting. I set a goal to watch a series of documentaries that were absorbing. I bought 20 books about some subject that interests me and would read them religiously at night and especially weekend evenings.

4. Taking a break from readings, along with other people on this forum that are also on break and can support each other.

More than anything else, identifying my triggers so that I could KNOW that I am being triggered and make a different choice, along with keeping myself busy during those trigger times, helped me break that cycle. Now I get readings maybe once every 4-6 months.

I wish you good luck. You can do it.

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Excellent post journalmuse.

Fidget1028:
Lol! Me too! Different app games now consume my life. Still better than wasting money on something that is out of my control.  :)

journalmuse:
Well now I’m curious. Which ones do y’all play? I mostly play a really dumb Family Guy one but it’s vwey entertaining.

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