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Every Psychic is a fake
tacobelle914:
There is a reason why they have to say these readings are for 'entertainment purposes only'... though, believe me, I have gone through MANY psychic readings (especially when vulnerable) that either sent me spiraling into depression or clinging on to shreds of hope.
And you know what? At the end of the day your own intuition is your best guide.
Yes, things can get really confusing and overwhelming and difficult to navigate but at my worst, I was just asking a bunch of strangers for advice and picking apart every single detail, contradiction, and prediction.
I think it is important, as time goes on, to make a pact with yourself (when you are ready) to only get a reading if you're going to use it more as fuel for thought rather than an accurate map of what is to come. Not only does it stop you from dwelling on the minutiae, but I feel that if there is something to this whole psychic thing, you gotta just live your own life, go with the flow and see what happens. If someone is right, great! But worrying about it constantly serves no one.
Easier said than done, I know! But imho if we all remain fixated on outcomes we are going to miss the here and now completely, and which makes it harder to embrace moments of growth along the way.
If we are not entertained by these psychics and instead depend on them for our happiness, paralyzing ourselves into a state of inaction unless we seek their 'wise' council, then we are not using them for guidance. We are asking them to make life decisions on our behalf, robbing ourselves of self-sovereignty and accountability.
Sparkle002:
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--- Quote from: Ninacy on April 09, 2019, 11:38:06 AM ---Btw I would like to add that this supposed SOULMATE thing has destroyed many of us and tricked us into waiting for a person that is generally not good for us--at all. I have waited nearly 3 years for my borderline and horribly immature ex to come back because I thought he was a soulmate or some sort of karmic mate, and many psychics told me so. If you ask 10 psychics about someone, more than half will pull out the soulmate line. It took me quite a while to think as a logical human being and abandon this delusion that he is my destined soulmate and that he will contact and things will get better for us. Actually, I'm now grateful he hasn't contacted me as that would be disastrous.
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Question, do you happen to know what a soulmate is?
While I agree some readers throw the line around...soulmates do have a meaning in your life...
He may have been a soulmate....soulmates don’t necessarily mean we end up with them in marriage or a relationship....it’s about the lesson we learn from that person
While the soulmate is supposed to help and support us....a karmic soulmate teaches us a lesson that we had to learn in this life...I’ve experienced both...usually there is some strong draw to this person.
I think we trick ourselves for believing that soulmates should be the ones we end up with (it would be nice but not common)...and shame on some readers for playing on that ideology....but in the end we are to blame for holding on...not the readers...(in my opinion)
https://foreverconscious.com/the-difference-between-soulmates-and-life-partners
https://thoughtcatalog.com/kirsten-corley/2018/01/this-is-what-a-soulmate-really-is-because-they-arent-just-the-people-we-date/
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Whether people trick themselves or not, the readers egg it on and are complicit with it. They know very well how most people are going to interpret it if they say someone is their soulmate. A lot of people are willing to go the extra mile waiting for someone or trying to work things out if they believe there is a special connection. It encourages people to hold on to hope or maybe even put up with cheating or abuse. If psychics want to bring up the idea of being soulmates then they need to be clear that it doesn't necessarily mean you end up together.
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It’s not a reader’s job to sit and be a teacher and explain everything. It’s the person who is getting a reading to ask questions and then the reader can answer. Soulmates are dogs cats friends parents neighbors you hate. There’s plenty of information on the internet on what soulmates are and people should educate themselves and do some research and not be ignorant to the fact that soulmates only mean one thing and that thing only.
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It's the psychic's job to be clear about the information they are giving and how it is relevant to the client's life. That's what they are paid for. Not every psychic uses the term soulmate in the same way. Some use it specifically to mean a romantic connection. Many times they have a specific way they use certain terminology. When you look those things up on the internet you might find all sorts of different explanations and definitions. What matters in the reading is how that psychic is using that term and what they mean by it.
When psychics talk about soulmates there's usually a certain context attached to it, like this is who you are meant to be with, you wouldn't be happy just dating others when you feel so strongly about this person. A lot of times they say those things explicitly. The word soulmate often ends up attached to the idea that this is someone worth waiting for, or toughing things out for. An ethical psychic would be careful about leading the client to think that way.
A person can believe they have many soulmates in life, and that not all are romantic, or that some are meant to be karmic lessons, etc. whatever, but still believe the soulmate they are in love with is a special kind of connection.
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I agree with both Still Tired and Ladya - I believe the reader should be clear with the definition of soulmate if they should use it, but i also believe that the power of the Internet should be used for additional education to fully understand the term and its many forms (because i don’t want to spend minutes on them educating me on this lol)
In the end I think 1) Readers can lead us on and 2) the ownus is still truly on us and how we use that information... I know several people out there that have held on to an unhealthy connection just because the connection was soooo strong - without the assistance of readers! Some people want what they want - think about how many of us who do read maybe get negative readings about an outcome (regarding a romantic connection) yet STILL choose to hold on?
Sparkle002:
--- Quote from: tacobelle914 on April 09, 2019, 07:29:47 PM ---There is a reason why they have to say these readings are for 'entertainment purposes only'... though, believe me, I have gone through MANY psychic readings (especially when vulnerable) that either sent me spiraling into depression or clinging on to shreds of hope.
And you know what? At the end of the day your own intuition is your best guide.
Yes, things can get really confusing and overwhelming and difficult to navigate but at my worst, I was just asking a bunch of strangers for advice and picking apart every single detail, contradiction, and prediction.
I think it is important, as time goes on, to make a pact with yourself (when you are ready) to only get a reading if you're going to use it more as fuel for thought rather than an accurate map of what is to come. Not only does it stop you from dwelling on the minutiae, but I feel that if there is something to this whole psychic thing, you gotta just live your own life, go with the flow and see what happens. If someone is right, great! But worrying about it constantly serves no one.
Easier said than done, I know! But imho if we all remain fixated on outcomes we are going to miss the here and now completely, and which makes it harder to embrace moments of growth along the way.
If we are not entertained by these psychics and instead depend on them for our happiness, paralyzing ourselves into a state of inaction unless we seek their 'wise' council, then we are not using them for guidance. We are asking them to make life decisions on our behalf, robbing ourselves of self-sovereignty and accountability.
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AGREED 100%!! We definitely have to take some accountability - sometimes it seems people can play the victim or blame everything on readers which should not be the case. You are in charge of your life..not them
tacobelle914:
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--- Quote from: tacobelle914 on April 09, 2019, 07:29:47 PM ---There is a reason why they have to say these readings are for 'entertainment purposes only'... though, believe me, I have gone through MANY psychic readings (especially when vulnerable) that either sent me spiraling into depression or clinging on to shreds of hope.
And you know what? At the end of the day your own intuition is your best guide.
Yes, things can get really confusing and overwhelming and difficult to navigate but at my worst, I was just asking a bunch of strangers for advice and picking apart every single detail, contradiction, and prediction.
I think it is important, as time goes on, to make a pact with yourself (when you are ready) to only get a reading if you're going to use it more as fuel for thought rather than an accurate map of what is to come. Not only does it stop you from dwelling on the minutiae, but I feel that if there is something to this whole psychic thing, you gotta just live your own life, go with the flow and see what happens. If someone is right, great! But worrying about it constantly serves no one.
Easier said than done, I know! But imho if we all remain fixated on outcomes we are going to miss the here and now completely, and which makes it harder to embrace moments of growth along the way.
If we are not entertained by these psychics and instead depend on them for our happiness, paralyzing ourselves into a state of inaction unless we seek their 'wise' council, then we are not using them for guidance. We are asking them to make life decisions on our behalf, robbing ourselves of self-sovereignty and accountability.
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AGREED 100%!! We definitely have to take some accountability - sometimes it seems people can play the victim or blame everything on readers which should not be the case. You are in charge of your life..not them
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Yeah... it's easy to do when you think of the future as fixed.
But people are people, and people can be wrong. It super hurts when you get your hopes up because your psychic said something that you wanted to be true, but didn't come to pass. But what if nobody told you anything to begin with? Sometimes I think externalizing the blame is a way to justify whatever disappointment or negativity we are experiencing, instead of fully processing it.
When life deals you a bad hand, shuffle the deck! ;)
sawthelight:
I had a couple of readers tell me that my first guy was "karmic"..which actually makes a lot of sense looking back on it.
Of course, I also had many tell me he was my twin flame, and regular soulmate etc....at this point, I don't really pay too much attention to those terms anymore.
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