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For those no longer getting readings - how did you know you were done?
russianred:
--- Quote from: mrrrrh22 on February 02, 2020, 03:53:26 PM ---some of the points you made really resonated with me! I find it hard to "let go" of the situation/your POI when you are continuing to get readings. and i found that the more frequently i get readings the more i am hyper-focused on the situation/POI. to me at least, i have to cut back significantly to detach. I've mentioned in another thread on here, that one reader told me that the more readings i'm getting is actually effecting my own POI's energy and leaving him hanging. so in my experience, there is def truth to all this.
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Yes, I like what you wrote about letting go. I wish it were something I could have forced more as I would have let go a long time ago to save myself a lot of frustration and money, but I think I had to arrive at my own conclusion. I was reading other threads on here and someone posted something about how a reader told her that being mentally "on hold" for someone (and I think many of us who call readers are in that boat) can feed into a "tense and frustrated space" that the POI then picks up on (I know mine has). Readings can further add to those emotions because they keep us in the emotional vortex of the situation. I also think that if I'm binging and a bunch of readers are trying to tap into POI's energy, that might just drain him further.
Letting go doesn't mean letting go of any hope. I'm still hopeful that things will work out. It means letting go of our need to control the situation and obtain a particular outcome. Letting go of my need to fully understand POI's actions. Letting go of trying to get the "magic insight" to help me "fix" him. For me, it also means being open to other possibilities and accepting that if POI can't prove himself deserving of me, then he is not the right one for me.
russianred:
I do think that in general, when men feel that you are genuinely (not pretending) slipping away, they will be more likely to respond and try to win you back. I believe I'm letting go for the right reasons -- for myself -- but of course a small part of me hopes that he will respond to this approach much better than the hovering and frustrated approach. :)
I also know exactly what you mean about how online dating is so draining and how the connection with POI feels pure and true compared to what you feel for others -- yet also not knowing whether a relationship would actually work given the limitations on what POI can offer to you due to his own circumstances.
WinterElf:
--- Quote from: Miss Philosopher on May 22, 2019, 03:42:24 AM ---
--- Quote from: WinterElf on May 20, 2019, 07:26:33 PM ---Thank you so much. I am feeling better now by praying. I spent the night at his place to watch GOT and the day before he was sent to the hospital for fainting at work. He was so stressed and upset he paced around the room till 5 am in the morning. I cry thinking about what he is going through.... all what those psychics said ... some of them painted him as the bad person and said he was lying about depression etc. I am so done. I hate psychic readings because it does bring a lot of turmoil. Even the free minutes they offer is not worth it... there are some gifted ones there but whenever i get a reading, things that i feel should not happen, happen.
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Yeah that's the other huge risk. You are asking a complete stranger about how someone else is feeling in general, or about you, and what they are up to etc. That's dangerous because it can cause you unnecessary heartbreak and even destroy what could have been or what could be because now you will be acting like and treating the other person as if they are doing something bad to you when, in reality, they may really be going through something terrible and just shut down and it would have nothing to do with you or another third party etc. I've had that happen so many times and while sometimes it was true, it was something my intuition already told me, and other times they would say it and it wouldn't "feel" right within me so I would dismiss it and go with what I felt and I ended up being right. YOU are the one that has the connection with this person and so I think it's best you just go with what YOUR gut is telling you and if you're confused about what it's telling you, then do nothing until it becomes clear. I feel like psychics ruin people's lives unintentionally. Yes, there are some that are gifted and can see certain things, but they can't see everything and we are humans, so our feelings will change from time to time. Sometimes our feelings change from hour to hour. It's just not a good way to determine what to do or make decisions based upon readings. When I first came on this forum I was raving about a couple of certain psychics and I took their word for gold. These psychics had a 99% accuracy rate. HOWEVER, the current situation I was calling about for the past year has unfolded completely opposite of what they said and that was a huge heartbreak and crushing disappointment for me. Had I just listened to my own intuition, seen the situation for what it was, not what it "might" change into or what it "could" change into, but for what it really was.......I would've spent more time letting go and healing rather than hanging on for the predictions to pass, which, none of the positive ones really ever did. Another year of my life wasted because I made decisions based upon readings. If you ever do decide to get more readings, take them with a grain of salt. That's my advice to you. I'm very glad you are feeling better. Much love and many blessings be to you. <3
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Miss Philospher you were so right. They ruined my life also unintentionally. I should have listened to myself. I wasted my life big time following psychics from 2018 2019... I am still recovering from the damage i caused by taking their word seriously. Please leave these psychics alone guys
JAG20:
I've been addicted to readings on and off for 8 or so years, what helped me to realize and come to my senses was to look at the situation I'm being shown, and the actions of the person, cuz often times a reader can come out with lovely comments you'd like to hear, but it didn't match up with her actions for me, and I have this deep realization gut feeling going on inside of me which perhaps I chose not to accept or face cuz of the pain of it. There's been a couple of times where readers gave info that turned out to be accurate such as cheating or third parties, but, they quite often missed the bigger picture
ES1281:
When I realized I m way happier when I m not expecting anything to happen.
When I realized happy present brings happy future.
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