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For those no longer getting readings - how did you know you were done?
maggs30:
Yes what is the point when they miss the big stuff and barely get the small stuff. So sorry you are going through this Professor.
Daisy573:
For me, I havent stopped completely but do not call nearly as much as I did in the past. What made me tone it way down was not being so focused on the outcome because quite frankly, most psychics NEVER got that right anyway and now just using psychics to help clear up confusion for me. I also found a few psychics that I seem to connect well with and I trust so when I call them for a reading, I feel satisfied after and dont feel the need to keep calling others like I did in the past. I will probably always hang on to my few faves and call when I feel I need to but I've stopped calling like I used to. Mostly because I have a busy life and just dont care as much about "will he return or not" any more. It was that nonsense that kept me calling and when the predictions would not happen, I would call some more and listen to the timing get pushed out etc etc etc....it just creates a cycle of hanging on and then calling more when the timing passes and nothing happens. At some point, you just say enough. Like for every other area of my life I do not hang on to things like that so why am I doing it for some dumb guy ?? hahah I think in the past I became more obsessed with which psychics would be accurate than I actually even cared about the guy any more!!
unicornlove:
Hi all. I still dont do readings. I have a new man in my life :-*. My ex never came back. :-\
SomethingBetter:
I’m bawling reading this. Thank you for posting it so eloquently.
--- Quote from: Gemini30 on September 20, 2019, 01:58:40 PM ---I began to see the pointlessness of readings, for me, about eighteen months ago. But even then I still couldn't stop completely because I was so enamoured of this poi. I desperately wanted to believe I still had a ghost of a chance with him. I was totally deluded. Hell, the man was already in a committed relationship and not even available. I'm embarrassed to admit it but I've been having readings about this same poi for literally years. I just couldn't let the matter rest, even though it was obvious he felt nothing for me, and I was wasting precious time, energy and money consulting these psychics. I read with one who was my main go-to for three years just because some small predictions had come true. I ignored my intuition, and allowed myself to be strung along like a fool, hoping the big, positive outcome would eventually unfold as she kept saying it would, although she could never give me a time frame. When the situation deteriorated out of the blue and the poi snubbed me, the psychic abruptly changed her tune. She blamed me for what happened by saying things would have come together if I'd taken her advice and 'worked on myself.' Then she flipped her prediction of three years by telling me the divine wanted to heal me in preparation for new love! She'd been telling me all along the poi was so attracted to me, had feelings, it was meant to be and we would be together etc. My fault of course for hanging on, denying reality and believing in all this rubbish. When it became glaringly obvious that he didn't want anything to do with me, she changed tack and said there wasn't enough between us for him to truly care if his behaviour was hurtful, or how he treated me. She became quite passive-aggressive, and then told me to google 'twin flame runner' because I'd 'understand more.' ::)
Even after that debacle, I STILL carried on reading with psychics to soothe my anxiety and escape reality. It was only recently when I had two negative card readings telling me nothing I hadn't already worked out for myself, that it dawned on me I was throwing my money away in pursuit of a dream, a fantasy, and it was a vain attempt to hold on to hope just a little bit longer. I was trying to avoid dealing with the pain of accepting that my poi wasn't interested in me romantically, and wouldn't ever see me in that way.
I've wasted years. I've finally seen sense and realised I can't let this crazy obsession go on past a certain number of years or it would be even more insane, so I've gone cold turkey. No more readings for me. Now the shame and regret has kicked in. I feel these readings mess with your emotions, and can cause you to lose touch with what reality is showing you. I was in denial for so long, and the years slip by all too quickly. I have remained stuck in the past while fixated on the poi. I also let important matters slide, and now I have to dig myself out of a financial hole, not for the first time, because I haven't been attending to important aspects of my life. It feels like I allowed everything to go to the dogs. I have to make a fresh start in life and move on from the poi, the painful memories and the whole ghastly experience with him.
I'm not blaming the psychics; I still think there are some genuine ones out there, and it was my choice to keep having readings about a hopeless situation. I just know that consulting with them is not healthy behaviour for me. I am better off using my intuition and common sense for guidance.
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unicornlove:
@gemini30 mee too. 2 1/2 years. I was addicted. One time I blew my whole paycheck on just readings. I have spent probably hundreds if not thousands on readings. And most of them were fluff, even Angela, what I wanted to hear. My ex never came back. :-X They were all wrong. The only ones right were Denise and Yona, they both predicted a new man coming into my life. At the time I didn't want t o hear it or believe it. But Denise and Yona were both right. ;D
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