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For those no longer getting readings - how did you know you were done?
moonstar:
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--- Quote from: flora0250 on December 28, 2018, 08:16:35 AM ---For those that have walked the road of spending too much money on too many readings over a long period... and have not had a reading in a long while.... how did you know you were done?
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When I realised none of the readings were accurate as none of the predictions came to pass.
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Yes this. And this forum has helped tremendously....I see so many people calling for years on dead end situations and it’s incredibly sad...I don’t want to live like that
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Yes, thank god I came to realise after only a couple of months and not after a year or longer!
star1:
What stopped me from getting readings was realising in my gut the likelihood of my ex recontacting me saying how sorry and silly he was and how he'd want to start again with me. He was the one last who upset me with his actions and he had a reason to contact me (I can't post here as it's private) and he didn't come forward at all to me with that or any reason. It was always me doing the chasing (which he was used to). My gut feeling always said that this situation between us was done and I chose to ignore it and be in denial and it was right. All of the readers said he loved me and cared and would be back, and I thought to myself "if someone really loves you, would they take this long to make contact with me?", I just highly doubt my ex still loves me like they said. Almost all didn't pick up on his narcy traits and possessive and controlling ways and something else important to my situation, so if they can't pick up that - how can they be right on his feelings and him coming back?
I began to think "why are you wasting your time, money and energy on someone who hasn't wasted a second of his time on me all year?", and realised I could move on and find someone who actually will love me and treat me with respect, rather than believe and take reader's words that he" loves" me.
I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
Lady_C:
I haven't had a reading for awhile now and I knew I was done due to a combination of inaccurate predictions along with my feelings having changed. I also put myself in my exes shoes, I thought about ALLLLLLL that money I spend since early this year inquiring about him, he would NEVER in a million years pine after me the way I did, so I gradually stopped.
I've saved so much money now I don't have constant readings and I'm also comfort with clicking on a psychic website such as Bitwine and not feel the urge to purchase a reading.
It's difficult, I won't simplify the process but once you gain control over your own feelings and bank balance. It's like a weight is lifted from off your shoulder.
star1:
--- Quote from: Lady_C on December 28, 2018, 01:01:42 PM ---I haven't had a reading for awhile now and I knew I was done due to a combination of inaccurate predictions along with my feelings having changed. I also put myself in my exes shoes, I thought about ALLLLLLL that money I spend since early this year inquiring about him, he would NEVER in a million years pine after me the way I did, so I gradually stopped.
I've saved so much money now I don't have constant readings and I'm also comfort with clicking on a psychic website such as Bitwine and not feel the urge to purchase a reading.
It's difficult, I won't simplify the process but once you gain control over your own feelings and bank balance. It's like a weight is lifted from off your shoulder.
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Yess!
Lady_C:
--- Quote from: star1 on December 28, 2018, 12:59:29 PM ---What stopped me from getting readings was realising in my gut the likelihood of my ex recontacting me saying how sorry and silly he was and how he'd want to start again with me. He was the one last who upset me with his actions and he had a reason to contact me (I can't post here as it's private) and he didn't come forward at all to me with that or any reason. It was always me doing the chasing (which he was used to). My gut feeling always said that this situation between us was done and I chose to ignore it and be in denial and it was right. All of the readers said he loved me and cared and would be back, and I thought to myself "if someone really loves you, would they take this long to make contact with me?", I just highly doubt my ex still loves me like they said. Almost all didn't pick up on his narcy traits and possessive and controlling ways and something else important to my situation, so if they can't pick up that - how can they be right on his feelings and him coming back?
I began to think "why are you wasting your time, money and energy on someone who hasn't wasted a second of his time on me all year?", and realised I could move on and find someone who actually will love me and treat me with respect, rather than believe and take reader's words that he" loves" me.
I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
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I can totally relate to this. You literally wrote this on my behalf, very similar experience with my ex and my feelings are in tandem with yours.
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