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For those no longer getting readings - how did you know you were done?
jhuskindle:
--- Quote from: Lady_C on December 28, 2018, 01:01:42 PM ---I haven't had a reading for awhile now and I knew I was done due to a combination of inaccurate predictions along with my feelings having changed. I also put myself in my exes shoes, I thought about ALLLLLLL that money I spend since early this year inquiring about him, he would NEVER in a million years pine after me the way I did, so I gradually stopped.
I've saved so much money now I don't have constant readings and I'm also comfort with clicking on a psychic website such as Bitwine and not feel the urge to purchase a reading.
It's difficult, I won't simplify the process but once you gain control over your own feelings and bank balance. It's like a weight is lifted from off your shoulder.
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I used to joke that if people spending $1000 looking into situations like this and just offered it to their poi in exchange for a few more dates they would never have to call a psychic and get the closure they need cause most of the readings are about people who ended not in the ‘what if’ phase and getting to know these guys just a little more would have made them realize he was stupid or scummy or broke or insecure and they could have left organically. Guy would undoubtedly take the money.
flora0250:
--- Quote from: Still tired on December 28, 2018, 03:55:40 PM ---
--- Quote from: flora0250 on December 28, 2018, 02:15:29 PM ---For me this time.... the idea of “well you’re just not open. You’re blocked. You’re negative.” - that really hit me. That it’s used by readers often as a way to cop out really of their reading and abilities. I just felt instinctively - you know what?!? No I’m not. I’m totally NOT actually lol. I’m like one of the most open people ever and am often told how open I am. I have never said oh no I don’t believe a reading because it doesn’t tell me the story I want it to tell me, which is also another shifting kind of tactic that so called readers use.
I think that’s sitting with me pretty hard right now. That - and it’s common not just a particular reader - people actually would go so far as to blame the customer for their shortcomings - worsening perhaps an already potentially depressed person’s state of mind.... just to keep up a facade that’s not real so they can make a buck off someone.
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Yes - exactly! The way they blame the client, or act like they know better...that was a big part of it for me too. It took me a long time to get out from under that though. I eventually noticed it just didn't affect me anymore, other than irritate me. It stopped making me doubt myself.
I quit once before a few years ago but I think a big part of why it didn't fully "take" then was because I still blamed myself and thought I was either hard to read or did something to change the predictions.
And I realized even the nicest readers use these tactics sometimes...it's just human nature and it's the nature of giving readings, because they are basically selling you something intangible. Of course they will say things to justify themselves and try to keep you calling. It's horrible though, when they do it to someone who is already confused or hurting.
Over time it just got more and more absurd when readers would get things wrong and then try to act like they were right after all and I just didn't know it. When it is something you can't verify it just plays with your head, but when it is something you know for a fact then it really shows how arrogant they are to insist that they know better.
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Still Tired - thank you so much - I completely very very much related to your first post you shared in response. So much agree with what you said and your experience. I still am a little stuck on how some seem to have this actual true ability for empathy and remote viewing - things that I absolutely cannot explain other than they must have some natural or practiced ability I don’t understand. And so then it’s so tempting to think the prediction will happen. But I think I’m getting to the point where more and more that i thought had an ability don’t and are just good cold readers - but some do. Some must. Because there is just no way someone could know some of the things I was told without my saying one word. But .., even with that ... unless the predictions happen - which haven’t yet for me although still could... then... really what’s worse is getting mentally wrapped up in wanting and waiting for that prediction - or expecting it anyway. Because it then messed with your mind and decisions I think anyway. Or has for me. So I think I am better off without them for a million reasons.
Thank you so so much - definitely connected to much of what you wrote.
star1:
I'm not showing off to people who are still in pain getting readings, but I was like, 5th in Cookie's queue and I dropped myself out of it because I just don't wanna waste another dollar on him. Knowing you can buy some makeup or new clothes with that money :D
psychic girls:
--- Quote from: star1 on December 28, 2018, 12:59:29 PM ---I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
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This is why I stop getting reading they tell everyone the same thing and nothing they said ever come to pass.
star1:
--- Quote from: psychic girls on December 28, 2018, 08:10:31 PM ---
--- Quote from: star1 on December 28, 2018, 12:59:29 PM ---I was having readings and in the end, all of them sounded the same. "he loves you but he got scared/he's busy with work/he has commitment issues/his last girlfriend hurt him so bad/he loved you too much that he was scared you'd hurt him", and there were many cases where I had an amazing reading with a reader, went and told someone what the reader had said and it turned out that they were word for word the same (like Eamon on CP). So I lost my faith in readers, I knew deep down that the situation with my ex was done and I thought to myself "why are you getting readings if you don't believe what they are telling you? Why are you basically throwing money down the drain?" and I began to get "turned off" off readings, I also knew that if I put myself to it, I could move on from my ex and begin to start looking elsewhere. I don't have that "I love him and can't and won't see anyone else again" feeling anymore.
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This is why I stop getting reading they tell everyone the same thing and nothing they said ever come to pass.
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Yeah they do, unfortunately.
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