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So what is it really all about?

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Miss Philosopher:
I don't think it's the same for everyone. Sometimes we really don't know WHY or what we are hoping to achieve during the time we are doing it. Some of us call to get us through a rough emotional time because if we talk to our friends or family about it, we get the old "told you so" or don't get any kind of support or a listening ear at all. Some of us call because we don't feel closure and don't know how to give that to ourselves at the time. Sometimes we feel a "different" kind of connection with a certain person that's rather inexplicable and we don't want to lose it. Each relationship we have presents a different kind of connection. Some are extremely strong to where we feel it on a soul level which makes it VERY HARD if not sometimes impossible to fully let go of and that is one of the biggest reasons why you will see some holding on for years and decades. I believe that when a person is READY to move on, they will, and no one can tell you when that time will come and it isn't right to tell a person when that time should be. We each move at our own pace. .

ladya:

--- Quote from: Miss Philosopher on December 01, 2018, 03:04:04 AM ---I don't think it's the same for everyone. Sometimes we really don't know WHY or what we are hoping to achieve during the time we are doing it. Some of us call to get us through a rough emotional time because if we talk to our friends or family about it, we get the old "told you so" or don't get any kind of support or a listening ear at all. Some of us call because we don't feel closure and don't know how to give that to ourselves at the time. Sometimes we feel a "different" kind of connection with a certain person that's rather inexplicable and we don't want to lose it. Each relationship we have presents a different kind of connection. Some are extremely strong to where we feel it on a soul level which makes it VERY HARD if not sometimes impossible to fully let go of and that is one of the biggest reasons why you will see some holding on for years and decades. I believe that when a person is READY to move on, they will, and no one can tell you when that time will come and it isn't right to tell a person when that time should be. We each move at our own pace.

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yessss!!! 100 percent

Miss Philosopher:
Here's my biggest issue. I have trouble deciphering whether or not I'm suppose to be patient and go through the storm with said person to get to the other side of sunshine eventually because that person is meant to be a part of my life, or if I'm suppose to cut said person off because it's just toxic for me and that person isn't meant to be in my life. I'm not sure that any psychic can ever really answer that either. It's hard.

Miss Philosopher:
I appreciate your feedback @stilltired. It's very insightful.

I'm in that confusing place right now. My go to's don't tell me to wait and be patient. They both say he isn't going to change his life anytime soon, which, I can already see that. I'm still stuck in that same place of not really knowing if I should hang on or not. One thing I do know is, that I'm really tired of the pattern of it. I have to break that cycle which is what I'm currently trying to do. However, I think part of breaking that cycle is not only for me to say "No you can't come back to my state of residence and live with me, go to your mom's in another state instead", but also for me not to get back together and just stay friends and sort of explore MY options now and maybe in the future we'll come together in the other way and maybe not. Unfortunately I was forced to this point. In the beginning I used to feel SO SURE that he was the one and we were meant to be, but, now I'm feeling way differently and I'm very unsure. I guess just time will tell but I'm not going to rely on psychics to tell me if he's meant to be or not. Clearly he was meant to be in my life for the time he has, I'm just not sure if that lasts or if it ends at some point permanently. Unless major changes are made, which it's highly probable they won't be made anytime soon, then no, he's not for me.

Miss Philosopher:
@stilltired: I'm sorry you had to go through that. I can still feel your disappointment even though you're glad to be free of it. I'm going through the back and forth with my feelings stage. I feel like it already is clear to me deep down but I'm in denial to a degree still. I'm moving to the stage of acceptance though. The longer it is, the more I get there. I feel it will come to the same result for me as it did for you.

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