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Do you believe psychics/mediums/empaths can REALLY pick up current feelings?
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: 11jlady on November 19, 2018, 06:44:29 PM ---@Star1: I'm just going to regurgitate other things that have already been said here by other beautiful souls.
1. It's true that you can have feelings for someone but never act upon it, and/or, delay in acting upon it. There are many reasons for this. It could be that the person feels like an absolute asshole and is too much of a coward to step forward. It could be the person doesn't feel they are ready to give you what you seek and they know it. It could be that the person is wanting to focus on money and career during this phase of their lives and feels a serious relationship would be a distraction and they wouldn't achieve their goals. It could be way too much ego and pride. It could be sooooooooo many things.
2. I have loved a few people deeply but never reached out to them because I wanted them to reach out to me. Perhaps some POI's want the same from us. I think that part really depends on who ended the relationship and why. I definitely wouldn't contact my current one because of how he's treated me. I'd be a fool to do so. So I let him get on with his life and learn his lessons the hard way and if I'm around whenever he is ready, then maybe it'll happen. If not, well then that's just another harsh life lesson for him. However, with another POI I loved him very much and I know he loved me too but we both knew it wasn't going to work out due to cultural issues so we just never contacted one another again. He's now married and has a son and I'm happy for him. I actually still care about that guy but obviously not in the same way I used to.
3. As I've stated before in previous posts, we can also feel one way in this moment and maybe for a year, but then our feelings change. It's sort of like how all of us feel when calling about POIs. In the beginning, feelings are still raw and strong. Over time, with no action, no communication etc........our feelings begin to slowly dissipate and change. Sometimes we lose all feelings and sometimes we just lose the strength of those feelings but still have some lingering feelings. This is specifically why I get readings monthly from two people. If I could afford it, I'd add in Divine Love but she's too expensive lol.
4. There are a TON of fake readers out there. Many more fake than real. So, I'd say, if you have some of the realist that you've read with that typically will say "uh no it's done" and they are telling you something else, maybe consider it. However, it may not happen in YOUR timing. Divine timing is always in control and at play here. Sometimes people have to have other experiences outside of you in order to be able to appreciate you. That may take years. It may take months. No one really knows. I don't think psychics are always given accurate timing due to the fact that A. maybe we aren't supposed to know so that we don't avoid certain situations for the purpose of learning.....and/or B. "time" doesn't exist on the other side.
At the end of the day, you have to go with the here and now. You have to go with what your gut is telling you. You have said many times that your gut is telling you that it's over. However, I feel if you really really felt it was over permanently, you would not still be calling psychics about said person. I feel like you actually feel on a deeper level that there is more to come, but not right now. Ask yourself why you are still calling after all this time. Something in you knows that it isn't the last you've heard from said person. Also, you could very well be picking up his thoughts/emotions for you as well. Remember, everything is an energy. EVERYTHING. Thoughts, emotions, etc. and since we are all connected we will feel them from others whether we are aware of it or not.
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This is SO true. Eventually the lack of effort and the inconsistent behavior gets to us and you find it harder and harder to look past.
As much as I still have feelings for my most recent POI, the fact that he acted the way he did just tarnished it for me, and I would have a really hard time moving past it even if he did reach out....
star1:
--- Quote from: psychicgirl87 on November 19, 2018, 07:39:10 PM ---Yes I believe it because it happened to me. An EX did reach out after many years (he wasn’t just an ex more like the love of my life) did we reconcile? I tried but ultamitely no because he is still immature and indecisive.
I think these readings just make harder and harder to let go.
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I'm enjoying hearing other's opinions/experiences on this thread.. That's the issue, with long term and deep relationships, sometimes there's too much damage to turn back and things can't ever be the same. Even with really good friends, it's hard to repair the friendship - let alone a relationship, sadly.
sparky:
I want to add to this. I think that there is also outside factors like family and friends that can play a role. They could be thinking about you and asking them for advice. They might all be saying don't go back to that person because of x number of reasons. But to your POI their heart and mind are not agreeing with each other. They hear what their friends and family say but their heart is telling them different. So they get conflicted and scared which makes them not want to reach out.
For my current POI I think that is playing a big role. I talked to a few more psychics and I got all the same thing that she would be coming back and that she is thinking of me. That she is actually thinking of me quite often. Not sure how much I believe any of it. As my own gut can say yes that is true but I also think it is over. The only thing giving me the most conflict is my own gut feeling is saying yes she will reach out. Right now it is very deep in the gut but enough there to be noticed.
One more thing I like to mention is that I talked to Effie. She gave a timeline that was drastically different than the rest. Effie said that we wouldn't reconcile until around Sept 2019 compared to the rest of basically early spring. She also mentioned my POI will end her current relationship around Feb/March and then see one more guy before she contacts me. But the second guy will be really short like a month long. She also mentioned that we were not life partners but more of a learning lesson. No one else said that either.
So is she right or the others? Well my own gut feeling is saying that she will reach out. As to if we will reconcile. A lot of that depends on my ex. I can see her working on it but at the same time it is a big mountain to climb and I could see her just giving up and running away. That is something that she needs to learn is to stick through the hardships. I think that as time goes on I will no longer want to be with my ex. I feel like I am pretty much there now but I won't know what I will do when she contacts me until then. I could do a complete 180 and take her back. So I have to ask all of you. Do you think what the psychic tells you is more of a way to just comfort your heart and mind no matter the outcome?
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: sparky on November 19, 2018, 07:59:29 PM ---I want to add to this. I think that there is also outside factors like family and friends that can play a role. They could be thinking about you and asking them for advice. They might all be saying don't go back to that person because of x number of reasons. But to your POI their heart and mind are not agreeing with each other. They hear what their friends and family say but their heart is telling them different. So they get conflicted and scared which makes them not want to reach out.
For my current POI I think that is playing a big role. I talked to a few more psychics and I got all the same thing that she would be coming back and that she is thinking of me. That she is actually thinking of me quite often. Not sure how much I believe any of it. As my own gut can say yes that is true but I also think it is over. The only thing giving me the most conflict is my own gut feeling is saying yes she will reach out. Right now it is very deep in the gut but enough there to be noticed.
One more thing I like to mention is that I talked to Effie. She gave a timeline that was drastically different than the rest. Effie said that we wouldn't reconcile until around Sept 2019 compared to the rest of basically early spring. She also mentioned my POI will end her current relationship around Feb/March and then see one more guy before she contacts me. But the second guy will be really short like a month long. She also mentioned that we were not life partners but more of a learning lesson. No one else said that either.
So is she right or the others? Well my own gut feeling is saying that she will reach out. As to if we will reconcile. A lot of that depends on my ex. I can see her working on it but at the same time it is a big mountain to climb and I could see her just giving up and running away. That is something that she needs to learn is to stick through the hardships. I think that as time goes on I will no longer want to be with my ex. I feel like I am pretty much there now but I won't know what I will do when she contacts me until then. I could do a complete 180 and take her back. So I have to ask all of you. Do you think what the psychic tells you is more of a way to just comfort your heart and mind no matter the outcome?
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If that was the case, that would be misleading and so damaging in the long run...kind of like just telling us what we want to hear. I would prefer brutal honesty.
I had a reading over the summer about the recent POI, and she basically said he's totally avoidant of you and he will be back, but don't wait..she ended up being right (well about the avoidant part). I still don't know what made him turn cold on me...but when he did finally reach out, I ignored. It made me feel kind of like I took the power back and wasn't going to only settle for his crumbs of time.
If your ex is with someone else, I would do your best to move on..jmo...even though I know it's easier said than done :(
star1:
--- Quote from: sparky on November 19, 2018, 07:59:29 PM ---I want to add to this. I think that there is also outside factors like family and friends that can play a role. They could be thinking about you and asking them for advice. They might all be saying don't go back to that person because of x number of reasons. But to your POI their heart and mind are not agreeing with each other. They hear what their friends and family say but their heart is telling them different. So they get conflicted and scared which makes them not want to reach out.
For my current POI I think that is playing a big role. I talked to a few more psychics and I got all the same thing that she would be coming back and that she is thinking of me. That she is actually thinking of me quite often. Not sure how much I believe any of it. As my own gut can say yes that is true but I also think it is over. The only thing giving me the most conflict is my own gut feeling is saying yes she will reach out. Right now it is very deep in the gut but enough there to be noticed.
One more thing I like to mention is that I talked to Effie. She gave a timeline that was drastically different than the rest. Effie said that we wouldn't reconcile until around Sept 2019 compared to the rest of basically early spring. She also mentioned my POI will end her current relationship around Feb/March and then see one more guy before she contacts me. But the second guy will be really short like a month long. She also mentioned that we were not life partners but more of a learning lesson. No one else said that either.
So is she right or the others? Well my own gut feeling is saying that she will reach out. As to if we will reconcile. A lot of that depends on my ex. I can see her working on it but at the same time it is a big mountain to climb and I could see her just giving up and running away. That is something that she needs to learn is to stick through the hardships. I think that as time goes on I will no longer want to be with my ex. I feel like I am pretty much there now but I won't know what I will do when she contacts me until then. I could do a complete 180 and take her back. So I have to ask all of you. Do you think what the psychic tells you is more of a way to just comfort your heart and mind no matter the outcome?
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It's weird, cos my gut feeling is similar to yours. I don't think that I feel strongly my gut's saying I completely won't hear from this man again online, but I strongly don't believe it logically, if that makes sense? But I know physically I won't ever see him again, in person - For certain. Also, I agree about third parties. His family really liked me, but unless he's bitched about me to them and his friends, making out I'm a bad person and making up stuff about me and the relationship, then obviously they're going to advise him from what they've heard to keep away from me. It depends what he's been telling them (which ofc I'll never find out). But I was close to his parents, so they should know how much I loved him and the issue was never on my end.
And yes - we never really know what we're going to really do once reality hits and the ex does contact us - some of us might actually change our mind on wanting them back, some of us might be beginning to move on and suddenly decide to give things a chance with the ex again or at least be friends.
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