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Finding out about an ex
tellmewhy:
Yep, had an ex contact me 2 years later and same ex 4 years later but I ignored all of his contract.
--- Quote from: aquagirl on September 28, 2018, 04:21:15 AM ---I've come to the realization that length of time from an ex or ex dating partner means nothing. I've had them contact me 6 months later, once a year for almost ten years, a few months ago a guy i talked to on a dating site contacted me 2 years after i spoke to him and had no clue who he was because i deleted his number from my phone. And i never met him in person. So when it comes to men, anything is possible. One thing i've learned with them , things aren't always as they seem.
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Lady_C:
--- Quote from: daughterofcups on September 27, 2018, 10:29:14 PM ---
--- Quote from: Lady_C on July 30, 2018, 04:56:55 PM ---This question specifically for anyone on here who is no longer speaking to their ex.
Although I'm fairly new here I'm not new to having readings. My and my ex broke up almost 6 months ago and I'm struggling to move on. I don't think psychic readings are helping with clarity (reconcilation and if he is dating) because the result have been inconsistent some say he still has feelings for me, others say he doesn't know how to reach out and some advise me to move on because he is seeing someone new.
We all know it's easier said than done, but I can see lately my obsession is getting worse. The more I get mixed answers the more frustrated I become. One of my trusted psychics (I've had readings about non relationship issues that why she is trusted) said I should reach out to my ex but move with caution and now it's got me thinking, I want to put an end to binge reading and just communicate with my ex.
We had a bad breakup which is why we don't speak although he did offer friendship but I couldn't deal with being just friends. I'm thinking of just accidentally messaging him like pretending to send a group message and include him by "mistake" to hopefully break the ice.
I think it's the only way to rid my self of depending on psychics because clearly none of them can help me.
My question is has anyone decided to open up the lines of communication rather than depend on a psychic? What was the outcome?
Even if we don't reconcile, if we communicate with time I will probably get my answer!
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put the psychics aside. fuck their opinion for a minute. if you have the desire to reachout, you trust that gut and you do it-- good or bad, you will regret not doing something you wanted to because a psychic told you not to. too often do we base our actions on psychics adivce trying to control or produce some type of outcome.. but i'd be willing to wager it almost never works out in our favor. we don't have control, and you have no idea how he would react. however... if you have some feeling that you need to say something or even get closure, or want to, do it. its natural and its a feeling you have for a reason. trust yourself. even if you don't get what you think you want in the end, i guarentee it will be something that needed to happen on your path, if you hold back you could be robbing yourself of an experience you needed to have, or even making it harder on yourself than it needs to be. don't sacrifice your own needs... trust yourself
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Thanks. Since I made this thread I did message my ex with no response. I had a feeling he would ignore me but I got my answer. I felt stupid for reaching out to him especially with the way things ended and me being the dumpee but I'm moving on from this situation and the longer time goes on the more my feelings subside. I'm trying to heal now and just forget about my ex.
Fidget1028:
Sorry Lady-C. It's probably for the best. If it's any consolation, if they do come back, it's usually after we have moved on and therefore taking them back will be on our terms.
Reviewer07:
Good on you lady_c, In my journey to healing I’ve found some days are garbage and some good and as time goes on my garbage days are becoming less and less. I hope you find that soon you have no garbage days as a result of your ex.
daughterofcups - P:
--- Quote from: Fidget1028 on September 28, 2018, 09:45:22 PM ---Sorry Lady-C. It's probably for the best. If it's any consolation, if they do come back, it's usually after we have moved on and therefore taking them back will be on our terms.
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Hey— never feel stupid for doing that. It was apart of your healing process and put you on the path youre supposed to be on. You are exactly where youre supposed to be and thats okay. :)
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