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No man worth your time is worth all of this heartache
sawthelight:
A big part of the problem with my first guy was that I think he believed I would always be there, waiting for him..and why not? I showed him that I was always there for him when he decided to come around even after no contact for a while.
I know he loved and cared for me too..that was obvious. He was just dysfunctional AF tbh. I really pity anyone who got involved with him after me...or anyone who was involved with him before me. He's just not long term material.
sawthelight:
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--- Quote from: sawthelight on January 28, 2019, 05:54:20 PM ---In the beginning, I held out a lot of hope that he would change..and the readers (some that you love in fact) told me the same. Yes I did believe we would be together for a long while. I would say only at the beginning of last year I really started to doubt. I pretty much gave up by spring time...But I started reading on Keen about him in 2014! and it took that long to get over him.
My intuition was skewed by readings, and I felt I cold no longer trust it after a while. I'm past that now and see clearer, thank God.
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i believe our gut always knows the answer and intuition always comes first. its not good when it becomes the other way around and i see how that messed you up. It should only verify what you already know deep down and strengthen the intuition not mess with it more.
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Eh I don't know. If that's the case, why call psychics at all, if you know? People call psychics (mostly) because they are confused by a person's behavior...and are looking for insight they can't see. We might feel an emotional connection to someone and feel it's going to turn into something and then when things take a turn for the worse, we seek out readings to see if we are still on the right path. I truly trusted the readings in the beginning.
Hell, if I was still talking to and getting readings on that guy, I'm sure most of these readers would be telling me we are "meant to be" still. I had to make my own destiny and decide not to put up with crap.
sawthelight:
Here's an example: I remember I had a date planned with first POI and I was so excited about it (this was in the beginning)...I even asked a few of my favorite psychics at the time how it would go and does this mean things are finally going to go in the right direction? they all said yes, reassured me. I was so happy..because he had been distant for a while and then he came back so strong.
He ended up canceling the date on me and being a total jerk about it too. I must have cried for two hours over that. I called all my readers like, what happened?? they all encouraged me to hang in there, he was scared...all kinds of BS that I believed!
I get so sick when I think about it.
sawthelight:
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--- Quote from: Miss Philosopher on January 28, 2019, 05:55:38 PM ---But, my go tos would tell me that he will not change for an extended period of time. The thing that kept me hanging on though was their comments about "He means well, but he's just not in the position to make changes right now".
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That was what kept me hanging on too, the idea that he would change. That they saw some time in the future when he would have this big change of heart, and grow out of all the bad behaviors and come back to me as a brand new person. They literally said things like that and portrayed it as if he would go through some miraculuous transformation.
--- Quote ---I would definitely cut off another with the quickness now if I saw anything even close to the same type of crap. So, there's definitely a reason for these experiences we have. I know this one taught me about boundaries, self love, and self respect, albeit a very painful lesson.
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Same here. It was very painful but I'm not sure if I could have learned it any other way. I was just too caught up in my own idealism to really see it.
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Yes exactly! Same here, like he was going to be come a whole new person. I even got the "you make him want to be better" lines.
People don't really change who they are, at the core. I can't believe I actually believed that stuff.
Even if he did change, he would have come with a whole crap load of baggage that would have sucked for me to put up with anyway, so it all worked out for the best.
jhuskindle:
Well stated! Contact doesn’t matter, if there is nothing serious coming from it, unless you both want casual friendship and lets be real we dont call psychics about casual friends.
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