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Beesa:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on January 23, 2018, 03:54:26 PM ---Wanted to post I went through something sort of similar last night....POI kinda turned cold on me (AGAIN lol) for no reason, after having a relatively good stretch with him. I came home and after realizing I wasn't even that upset about it, and I had no desire for a reading, but I just kind of don't care anymore!
It was a great feeling! I guess you get to the point where you just tire of it, and I've prayed for this moment, many, many times, where his BS wouldn't upset me and I really feel like God answered my prayers.
Just sick of his bipolar personality and hot/cold BS. In the past, I would try to analyze, what happened? what did I do or say, maybe he's going through something...etc..This time, i'm like "who the f cares??" LOLOL
I feel I deserve better and I truly feel like a switch has been turned off and I've lost interest. what an amazing feeling, and long overdue! ;D 8)
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This is so great, its such a great feeling isn't it! I can totally relate unfortunately. I read somewhere that closure is indifference and I think that's really true.
Right before my breakup last year (like a month) my ex was being totally bipolar again and crazy and I was so tired of it. I prayed to God that if it was in my highest good to be out of the relationship then please let my feelings for him fade. I didn't know what else to ask for, I was so sick of asking to make things work, to understand him better, etc.... So I just released myself I guess? lol. Because we had one big ol fight and then it was over. I went no contact entirely and went back and forth with my feelings but then started to realize they were FADING omg. It was a miracle ;D Of course he tried really hard to come back and I sort of gave him a chance but then I found that yah my feelings for him weren't strong anymore. I felt so free. we've gotta save the good for the ones who really deserve it !
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: Beesa on February 08, 2018, 06:12:36 PM ---
--- Quote from: sawthelight on January 23, 2018, 03:54:26 PM ---Wanted to post I went through something sort of similar last night....POI kinda turned cold on me (AGAIN lol) for no reason, after having a relatively good stretch with him. I came home and after realizing I wasn't even that upset about it, and I had no desire for a reading, but I just kind of don't care anymore!
It was a great feeling! I guess you get to the point where you just tire of it, and I've prayed for this moment, many, many times, where his BS wouldn't upset me and I really feel like God answered my prayers.
Just sick of his bipolar personality and hot/cold BS. In the past, I would try to analyze, what happened? what did I do or say, maybe he's going through something...etc..This time, i'm like "who the f cares??" LOLOL
I feel I deserve better and I truly feel like a switch has been turned off and I've lost interest. what an amazing feeling, and long overdue! ;D 8)
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This is so great, its such a great feeling isn't it! I can totally relate unfortunately. I read somewhere that closure is indifference and I think that's really true.
Right before my breakup last year (like a month) my ex was being totally bipolar again and crazy and I was so tired of it. I prayed to God that if it was in my highest good to be out of the relationship then please let my feelings for him fade. I didn't know what else to ask for, I was so sick of asking to make things work, to understand him better, etc.... So I just released myself I guess? lol. Because we had one big ol fight and then it was over. I went no contact entirely and went back and forth with my feelings but then started to realize they were FADING omg. It was a miracle ;D Of course he tried really hard to come back and I sort of gave him a chance but then I found that yah my feelings for him weren't strong anymore. I felt so free. we've gotta save the good for the ones who really deserve it !
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Wow, I like that! Closure is indifference, so damn true...when you can hear something about your ex and just NOT care. But man, does it take forever to get to to that point, but very freeing once it does happen. I'm not 100% at the indifference part, meaning I still care for him somewhat, but I am a heck of a lot stronger than I was. My expectations are zilch at this point, and that in and of itself is a major step in the right direction.
I remember an ex of mine, I was so hung up on him and it took me forever to reach a point where I wrote him off completely. Heard from him a few years later and he was telling me about a girl he was currently with and I felt NOTHING and I honestly felt sorry for the girl! LOL....and guess what, surprise, surprise, didn't last with her either. That fool never realized his own issues, just played victim all the time.
Sorry to hear you went through something similar.....but glad you are at a better place. :D :)
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