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star1:
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on November 10, 2018, 04:56:17 PM ---I havent let go in terms of not wanting him back or not loving him -- I dont know if I am capable of that! He's "my person" I know it in my heart! But UG - stands for Ungettable Girl... The concept is after a break up you should focus on making yourself "better, balanced, whole". Maybe it's exercise, diet, meditation, career, school... whatever it is... instead of sitting aty home pining over them go out and "do you". You can still love them, think about them, etc But while "waiting" try to live your best life
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For me, moving on and letting go means completely moving on. But I also agree it's about bettering yourself and doing whatever you need to do. If you put on a little weight comfort eating, then diet. If you want to get some learning or experience into your life, study, if you have hobbies, enjoy and explore them etc. Ungettable girl is a good word to use, lol.
flora0250:
--- Quote from: star1 on November 10, 2018, 04:45:33 PM ---I am confused what the meaning "letting go" means then. Because women on here say they're letting go yet I've spoken to them recently and they said if anyone went near their POI they'd beat them up, lol. I think people kid themselves into thinking that they have moved on to get the prize. If you move on with the onset of "it's going to bring my POI back", it won't work. You have to move on because you genuinely have or want to.
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--- Quote from: star1 on November 10, 2018, 04:45:33 PM ---I am confused what the meaning "letting go" means then. Because women on here say they're letting go yet I've spoken to them recently and they said if anyone went near their POI they'd beat them up, lol. I think people kid themselves into thinking that they have moved on to get the prize. If you move on with the onset of "it's going to bring my POI back", it won't work. You have to move on because you genuinely have or want to.
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I agree that it sounds like that person was still attached to wanting their desire - their specific outcome - and jealousy played into it too obviously it sounds like in the example you gave. My point is only that I think I personally have struggled with “letting go” thinking that it’s meaning is “don’t love this person anymore.” Because it’s really hard for me personally to think I can turn a switch that I suddenly don’t love someone. I still love lots of exes to be honest.
But when I read about how the law of attraction and law of detachment work together and can exist at the same time that made sense to me. And even if you just take out the whole idea of “manifesting” what you want yadda yadda....
You can still say well I recognize I love this person but I’m going to also recognize that I no longer want to be attached to wanting a certain outcome *because* I love this person.
So all I’m saying is that you can still love someone and practice non-attachment to wanting them or wanting a specific outcome (like getting back together) because you love them.
For me personally that is helping me. And it’s not because I think this will bring him back. It just really is what it is and is healthiest for me. I don’t know what the heck is going to happen and I’m worn out from worrying about it and even being attached to wanting to know the outcome. And if I try to fight that I love someone and make myself not love someone I love, i just get more wrapped up in that I still love them.
Anyway I don’t know if that helps but it’s iust my personal perspective on my personal experience.
This is one article that helped me even though I am not sure I’m on board at all with the whole practice of LOA. Not saying I agree with everything here but it did open my mind up related to this.
http://www.mind-your-reality.com/detachment.html
So bottom line is that I don’t think letting go has to equate to no longer loving someone. Maybe that happens maybe it doesn’t. But I think I learned that for me I can love someone without being attached to wanting an outcome because I love them.
Whatever happens I will get through this and I really have faith that the best is in store for me whether it’s with my POI or not. And I really am exhausted from wondering and worrying. I’ve been through much worse!!
Hope this helps clarify at least where I’m coming from.
star1:
--- Quote from: flora0250 on November 10, 2018, 05:06:59 PM ---
--- Quote from: star1 on November 10, 2018, 04:45:33 PM ---I am confused what the meaning "letting go" means then. Because women on here say they're letting go yet I've spoken to them recently and they said if anyone went near their POI they'd beat them up, lol. I think people kid themselves into thinking that they have moved on to get the prize. If you move on with the onset of "it's going to bring my POI back", it won't work. You have to move on because you genuinely have or want to.
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--- Quote from: star1 on November 10, 2018, 04:45:33 PM ---I am confused what the meaning "letting go" means then. Because women on here say they're letting go yet I've spoken to them recently and they said if anyone went near their POI they'd beat them up, lol. I think people kid themselves into thinking that they have moved on to get the prize. If you move on with the onset of "it's going to bring my POI back", it won't work. You have to move on because you genuinely have or want to.
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I agree that it sounds like that person was still attached to wanting their desire - their specific outcome - and jealousy played into it too obviously it sounds like in the example you gave. My point is only that I think I personally have struggled with “letting go” thinking that it’s meaning is “don’t love this person anymore.” Because it’s really hard for me personally to think I can turn a switch that I suddenly don’t love someone. I still love lots of exes to be honest.
But when I read about how the law of attraction and law of detachment work together and can exist at the same time that made sense to me. And even if you just take out the whole idea of “manifesting” what you want yadda yadda....
You can still say well I recognize I love this person but I’m going to also recognize that I no longer want to be attached to wanting a certain outcome *because* I love this person.
So all I’m saying is that you can still love someone and practice non-attachment to wanting them or wanting a specific outcome (like getting back together) because you love them.
For me personally that is helping me. And it’s not because I think this will bring him back. It just really is what it is and is healthiest for me. I don’t know what the heck is going to happen and I’m worn out from worrying about it and even being attached to wanting to know the outcome. And if I try to fight that I love someone and make myself not love someone I love, i just get more wrapped up in that I still love them.
Anyway I don’t know if that helps but it’s iust my personal perspective on my personal experience.
This is one article that helped me even though I am not sure I’m on board at all with the whole practice of LOA. Not saying I agree with everything here but it did open my mind up related to this.
http://www.mind-your-reality.com/detachment.html
So bottom line is that I don’t think letting go has to equate to no longer loving someone. Maybe that happens maybe it doesn’t. But I think I learned that for me I can love someone without being attached to wanting an outcome because I love them.
Whatever happens I will get through this and I really have faith that the best is in store for me whether it’s with my POI or not. And I really am exhausted from wondering and worrying. I’ve been through much worse!!
Hope this helps clarify at least where I’m coming from.
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I see your point. See, I'm a Virgo, so when I move on from someone, I'm done. My mind perhaps works a little different. The first love that everyone says you have, I got over him and I'm still quite young myself. Maybe I'm different like that. As you know, I don't believe in LOA personally, but I respect and won't talk against what you believe in, that's upto you. It's just I see people on here say they're letting go and they're still having the readings, on here constantly, asking about their exes and "so and so reader said this, my ex is doing this, does it match?". That in my mind is definitely not letting go, like you and Law said - it's all about putting the effort into yourself and putting the ex onto a shelf. Getting on with life and studying, socialising, going to the gym, painting whatever people like to do in their spare time.
flora0250:
@star1 agree - I am really on the fence on whether or not I believe in LOA - I kind of don’t more than do - but the matter of “letting go” and detachment as is described in the link I shared *is* something that resonated with me.
And don’t get me wrong - I am not perfect and it is not that I am somehow 100% confident that I’m not going to slip up and fall back into the mindset of worrying and wondering and making a call. I hope I don’t. I really really hope I don’t. But this is how I’m feeling now and I hope it lasts and I hope I can solidify this lesson.
Lots of love your way.
star1:
--- Quote from: flora0250 on November 10, 2018, 05:16:23 PM ---@star1 agree - I am really on the fence on whether or not I believe in LOA - I kind of don’t more than do - but the matter of “letting go” and detachment as is described in the link I shared *is* something that resonated with me.
And don’t get me wrong - I am not perfect and it is not that I am somehow 100% confident that I’m not going to slip up and fall back into the mindset of worrying and wondering and making a call. I hope I don’t. I really really hope I don’t. But this is how I’m feeling now and I hope it lasts and I hope I can solidify this lesson.
Lots of love your way.
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You're only human and you are going to slip up and make mistakes. Otherwise you'd be like God, lol. It's normal to have wobbles and slip up, it's part of our nature. And yes, it sounds more sensible than other LOA. Lots of love back, thank you ♥️
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