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Baypark1:

--- Quote from: peppie on October 23, 2017, 01:03:25 AM ---when people on here talk about God, are you talking about a particular religion?

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I'm not a bible thumper ,stuff it down your throat Christian. I don't believe in religion. I believe God wants to have a relationship with us and that doesnt mean knowing every scripture of the bible. Ive met more hypocritical Christians living in the south that i care to admit. I love jesus and have finally allowed myself to trust again after many things that happened to really rock my faith to the point I turned my back on him.  This whole psychic addiction  was a catalyst in trusting God again :)

nightime:
Hey Peppie, it's not easy. There was one point where I was addicted because I was hurting and wanted the pain to go away. These advisors would tell me he was coming back, he loved me, we were meant to be together, and all that bull shit crap. There were a few who said to let go because he wasn't coming back and was moving on. I refused to believe these people and kept calling all my feelgood advisors.

That's what we need to remember...these readings are short term feelgood coping mechanisms. We pay these people to make us feel better because we're having such a hard time coping with whatever emotion we are going through. Instead of healing from a broken heart at an organic pace, I was only pushing the inevitable...all the pain I tried to push away for months finally came snowballing as an avalanche when I realized he wasn't coming back and he had indeed moved on. That pain was worse than anything because I let it grow AND I felt so stupid wasting thousands of dollars on these people.

I'm not exactly sure what you are going through, but I bet it's not easy. I think the best thing to remember is...the pain, the anxiety, the worry is all temporary. There will be an end to it. It's not forever. No one knows when it will end but just know that it will. It will NEVER be forever. Time is your best advisor. It will heal you and help you understand things. I had a yoga instructor who would make us hold uncomfortable positions for a bit longer than comfortable. She would always say, "Yes, it hurts. Yes, it's uncomfortable but you won't be holding this position for an hour or even 5 minutes. Stop your mind from saying you can't, because you can. Believe in yourself. If you fall out of the pose, it's ok. It takes practice and forgiveness of yourself to quiet your mind, your ego." She taught us this in order to apply it to our lives.

I can go on and on here...lol...I'm a yoga guru, sorry. But what I'm trying to say is, believe that you don't need these people to tell you anything. Try and sit with these emotions and remember it will pass. Just be patient and if you slip, it's ok! It takes practice but one day soon you'll stop calling these people! And maybe hold bird of paradise for 5 minutes! :)  ;)

Universal9:
I am in a similar boat myself. Havent completely stopped calling either. Also we have discussed this many times and I cant agree enough how detrimental it is to mix up the energies.
What helps me these days is to be comfortable in my own pain after reading from some comments on the forum on this topic.. coz after too much pain, you will definitely come out of it (better said than done, but there is some truth to this)..
Also, I use a credit card through a credit union that does not update the balance till after the cycle, so I have it maxed out, and now only pay the minimum due, so can use just that min due on keen monthly. Once that balance is used, I cant pay from some debit card and have the balance updated instantly. So that is keeping me under check (for now its helping).


--- Quote from: Still tired on October 21, 2017, 05:48:12 PM ---I haven't completely stopped but have cut way back. What helped me the most was finding this forum and reading everyone's stories. Before that I thought if I kept trying one day I would find the right reader. Now I realize even the best ones are prone to mixing things up and it is dangerous to rely on anything they say. It still took awhile for it to really sink in and I had to stop reading here for awhile too so I wouldn't be so tempted to keep calling.

I also made myself read through notes I had taken on past calls, embarrassing though it was to see how many calls I made and how ridiculous some of the readings were, that I paid good money for and got little or nothing out of. Facing up to it and reading those notes helped a lot. There were lots of things I wrote down but forgot. And reading it again made me realize how wrong they were, how wasteful it was and just how much I was out of my mind to even listen to it much less pay for such garbage.

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peppie:

--- Quote from: Still tired on October 24, 2017, 03:35:14 AM ---
The biggest thing for me has been to avoid being in situations that would drive me to want to call.


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Thanks for sharing - very helpful.

The quote above though... omg that means I have to stop living...  ;D

HornetKick:

--- Quote from: Still tired on October 24, 2017, 03:35:14 AM ---Long story short I can't be friends with people (much less be partners with someone) with very different values than my own.

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So true. It's just as painful and as long of a road to recovery.

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