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doubleoh8:
--- Quote from: Seeker on October 20, 2017, 03:48:17 PM ---
--- Quote from: doubleoh8 on October 20, 2017, 03:38:40 PM ---Do you think that comes up for you, Seeker?
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I think this part just made me finally understand:
... more about them having a feeling there is value in the connection and not wanting to give it up, but at the same time not really being willing to rise up and over their own challenges.
Wow. I believe that's exactly what's been happening. That makes a ton of sense. Very wise doubleoh8.
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Great! i think I am having a mini-epiphany of my own. More on this in a little while... I have to step out but I found your post helpful too, Seeker.
sodapopcharm:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on October 18, 2017, 07:24:41 PM ---
I have been where you are...and I always hoped things would change. they did a bit, but never enough, and it was only way after I moved ahead, that I realized I'm glad things didn't work out the way I wanted them to at the time, because something so much better was around the corner. Sound corny and cheesy, but it's true!
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same happened to me with a past POI. so glad it didn’t work out because after I moved on, an amazing person came into my life.
mystery123:
--- Quote from: sodapopcharm on October 21, 2017, 05:06:16 AM ---
--- Quote from: sawthelight on October 18, 2017, 07:24:41 PM ---
I have been where you are...and I always hoped things would change. they did a bit, but never enough, and it was only way after I moved ahead, that I realized I'm glad things didn't work out the way I wanted them to at the time, because something so much better was around the corner. Sound corny and cheesy, but it's true!
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same happened to me with a past POI. so glad it didn’t work out because after I moved on, an amazing person came into my life.
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gives me hope :) thank you!
maroonlight:
--- Quote from: mystery123 on October 18, 2017, 04:05:38 AM ---I am sorry it's not a psychic or reading related question but I didn't know where else to ask this as I can't discuss it with any of my girlfriends or family..
How do you guys deal with when you see your POI with someone else? Or you know he has chosen someone else over you? how do you deal with the pain?
I truly want to let go now. I am tired of feeling hurt and trapped in this emotion. For once I want to feel free of him, his thoughts, and be with someone who wants me and cares for me. It's almost like I am friends with the pain of rejection now, but I can't stop hoping for him to come back. How do I stop hoping?
The idea of going out and meeting new people right now is scary and I am not even sure how to do that -- not an extrovert. I can't do online dating- just too intimidating for me.
All the readers said he will come forward, travel more, be more open (Yona, Aries, Dawn, Christina, and a bunch--and maybe my fault for getting so many readings). This past weekend i saw he is traveling but to meet this other girl he liked which he told me about too. So yea they picked up his activities but not for me?! which means his feelings are also not for me.. And regardless of this girl he has never committed to me in two years, he has been fine with "sleepovers" but that's it, I don't know why I fell in love with such a jerk. It's my mistake to let this happen and keep myself hoping despite of what was happening. So I really want to open my eyes to reality and stop living in the psychic world where they tell me that he likes me.
I can't do this anymore, in 28 years this is the first time I feel crippled.. any advice on how to let go of pain, move on for good would be great?
I have read plenty of articles online but seeking some real person advice since I feel I know you guys! Thanks!
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It feels impossible, but you can and will be able to let you. I have a very hard time letting go and I've hung on to people for several long months when they were long gone. The first step is honestly putting your mind to it and putting yourself out there, and yes that means meeting and dating new people. I think you'd be surprised if you gave online dating a try. I've met lots of normal and cool people through dating websites and I know people personally who have married people they have met through dating sites. It's a much easier way to meet people than to try to be at the right place at the right time and hope you will accidentally meet someone. You met this guy somehow at one point, so you are perfectly able to meet others as well.
I was stuck on a guy who I was calling about after months of him completely ignoring me, and I finally got back on a dating site and I'm now dating someone new and I feel so much better. I've practically forgotten about the last guy completely. It can be discouraging at first because you'll go on dates with people you don't click with, but you just don't give up.
Readers like Aries and Lady P told me that the guy I was calling about would come back, and Aries said we would be in a committed relationship by winter months. I even talked to several "famous" psychics and it costed a few hundred dollars to read with them, and they had long waiting lists, and they all say the guy would come back by the summer. It's almost November and I haven't spoken to him since April. I tried dozens of readers, and most of them were readers who other people said got predictions right for them, and nothing panned out for me at all. You seriously can't put your life on hold and wait for this guy because of what the psychics say. I called and waited months over 2 different guys total between 2016 and 2017 and nothing ever happened with either of them. I know predictions do pan out for some people but I can bet you it's nothing but a coincidence.
I absolutely feel your pain and heart ache, and you deserve love and happiness in your life, and it will come to you, but it's not going to be with this guy. I learned that the hard way and I almost attempted suicide in June because of the situation. Things do get better, I promise..
mystery123:
--- Quote from: maroonlight on October 22, 2017, 04:09:22 PM ---
It feels impossible, but you can and will be able to let you. I have a very hard time letting go and I've hung on to people for several long months when they were long gone. The first step is honestly putting your mind to it and putting yourself out there, and yes that means meeting and dating new people. I think you'd be surprised if you gave online dating a try. I've met lots of normal and cool people through dating websites and I know people personally who have married people they have met through dating sites. It's a much easier way to meet people than to try to be at the right place at the right time and hope you will accidentally meet someone. You met this guy somehow at one point, so you are perfectly able to meet others as well.
I was stuck on a guy who I was calling about after months of him completely ignoring me, and I finally got back on a dating site and I'm now dating someone new and I feel so much better. I've practically forgotten about the last guy completely. It can be discouraging at first because you'll go on dates with people you don't click with, but you just don't give up.
Readers like Aries and Lady P told me that the guy I was calling about would come back, and Aries said we would be in a committed relationship by winter months. I even talked to several "famous" psychics and it costed a few hundred dollars to read with them, and they had long waiting lists, and they all say the guy would come back by the summer. It's almost November and I haven't spoken to him since April. I tried dozens of readers, and most of them were readers who other people said got predictions right for them, and nothing panned out for me at all. You seriously can't put your life on hold and wait for this guy because of what the psychics say. I called and waited months over 2 different guys total between 2016 and 2017 and nothing ever happened with either of them. I know predictions do pan out for some people but I can bet you it's nothing but a coincidence.
I absolutely feel your pain and heart ache, and you deserve love and happiness in your life, and it will come to you, but it's not going to be with this guy. I learned that the hard way and I almost attempted suicide in June because of the situation. Things do get better, I promise..
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Thank you! I can feel the difference in me just by accepting that it will never work out. I do feel lighter. I will give online dating another shot and this time be more open.. thank again, it's comforting to know that others understand you and have been able to move past this situation!
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