Relationship Psychology Discussions > The Vent
Little bit of a vent but also need some help?
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: Baypark1 on September 07, 2017, 03:35:49 PM ---I've been getting readings for 5 years and about 3 POI's. The first guy, I read with maybe 5 or 6 people over a 9 month period. They all said he'd be back, were right on about the relationship he was in and that we would be together. They were all right. He did come back and we were together for 2 years. What they didn't tell me was how devastated emotionally, spiritually and financially I would be when he did leave.
2nd guy, SOOOOOO many were wrong. Every person said he'd be back. Nope. I've never talked to him again.
3rd guy - some got things right. Outcome has yet to happen. Keisha, Diane731, Dawn Maree and Friend Sue are really the only ones I talk to. All say we will have the opportunity to be together. It's been a year. I haven't consciously been waiting but no one else has come into my life so sub consciously I've been waiting.
I have recently become very aware of an underlying issue I have with abandonment and rejection of which I have found something to really dig deep to fix this issue. This is why I hang on to these men. I'm sorry, but still thinking and wanting a guy after a year is NOT normal to me. I feel it in my bones. This is also why I pick these losers lol If anyone wants to know more, just PM me.
My take on all of this is the readers see what we want most of the time. Maybe they actually do see the positive outcome but I don't know why they don't manifest. All I know is I've wasted thousands of dollars, 70% of my time and energy on someone that doesn't have the return interest. For me, there is a pattern of which I have finally identified and am working on. MY prediction is I'm going to heal completely and find a man who will never make me feel like I have to call a psychic ever again. Now THATS a prediction I'll put my money on :)
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I agree, 100%. When it's a man that's RIGHT, you won't need to call a psychic. Abandonment issues is something I suffer with as well, due to my childhood.
Baypark, I noticed in another thread you mentioned that the guy finally did break up with the girl he was with as they predicted. Has he given you any indication that he wants to be with you now? or is he being a typical jerk guy (no offense, I just mean in general).
morland1:
I agree 100% on the abandonment issues playing a role in our psychic binges. I too suffer from underlying abandonment issues from my childhood so I hold on too long to the wrong people.
Baypark1:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on September 07, 2017, 04:16:56 PM ---
--- Quote from: Baypark1 on September 07, 2017, 03:35:49 PM ---I've been getting readings for 5 years and about 3 POI's. The first guy, I read with maybe 5 or 6 people over a 9 month period. They all said he'd be back, were right on about the relationship he was in and that we would be together. They were all right. He did come back and we were together for 2 years. What they didn't tell me was how devastated emotionally, spiritually and financially I would be when he did leave.
2nd guy, SOOOOOO many were wrong. Every person said he'd be back. Nope. I've never talked to him again.
3rd guy - some got things right. Outcome has yet to happen. Keisha, Diane731, Dawn Maree and Friend Sue are really the only ones I talk to. All say we will have the opportunity to be together. It's been a year. I haven't consciously been waiting but no one else has come into my life so sub consciously I've been waiting.
I have recently become very aware of an underlying issue I have with abandonment and rejection of which I have found something to really dig deep to fix this issue. This is why I hang on to these men. I'm sorry, but still thinking and wanting a guy after a year is NOT normal to me. I feel it in my bones. This is also why I pick these losers lol If anyone wants to know more, just PM me.
My take on all of this is the readers see what we want most of the time. Maybe they actually do see the positive outcome but I don't know why they don't manifest. All I know is I've wasted thousands of dollars, 70% of my time and energy on someone that doesn't have the return interest. For me, there is a pattern of which I have finally identified and am working on. MY prediction is I'm going to heal completely and find a man who will never make me feel like I have to call a psychic ever again. Now THATS a prediction I'll put my money on :)
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I agree, 100%. When it's a man that's RIGHT, you won't need to call a psychic. Abandonment issues is something I suffer with as well, due to my childhood.
Baypark, I noticed in another thread you mentioned that the guy finally did break up with the girl he was with as they predicted. Has he given you any indication that he wants to be with you now? or is he being a typical jerk guy (no offense, I just mean in general).
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Yes, he broke up with her late July, however, has still be seeing her a few times a week as "friends" from what I'm told. No, he has not made any indication of wanting to be with me, which really put me in a tail spin since it's been 6 weeks. I found out this weekend, he's seeing some other girl now as basically a booty call. So, I've called the readers that told me he was coming back and they still say he'll be back. Keisha gave me September as contacting me and starting to move forward so when I talked to her she said "what he does in between is his deal". LOL It was at that point I just got slapped right up side the head with reality and finally realized I need to figure out what the hell is wrong with me!!! Seriously, what am I doing???? So, one thing led to another and I found this lady named Susan Anderson. She has a website www.abandonment.com and oh boy were my eyes opened! Abandonment issues don't necessarily have to come from our childhood. We can grow up in a perfect household with a perfect family and later on something can happen that can trigger that abandonment feeling and we spiral down from there. In my case, I have it from childhood but also friends, boyfriends, my child dying and then my ex husband dying. All of those things are abandonment. Death, being one of them, was surprising to me. I highly recommend looking at her site and going on You Tube and listening to some of her interviews. I actually started crying when I listened to her because I had FINALLY found a tool to use to heal. I just thought I was a nut case until I found her :)
As for the POI, Keisha has been extremely honest with me and said he will never be ready for anything more than a casual relationship even though he has high potential for having a healthy relationship. The others have said that I will eventually not want him which is happening. He can go flitter off with as many women as he wants but he's not getting booty from me. No way.
My last few readings with Dawn and Keisha were more of them giving me insight to my barriers and how to work on healing myself. It's been kinda cool actually :)
doubleoh8:
Yes, I agree too about the connection between abandonment issues / love addiction and psychic dependency.
And I think calling psychics can be such a negative when used to fuel our abandonment issues -- which happens with the incessant 'when will he call?' 'will we be together' tack. On the other hand, I have also had psychic help me with my healing -- identifying barriers and blocks and tools to overcome them. Maybe the key is to focus the readings on understanding ourselves and not so much on what another person is going to do. I've had psychics flat out tell me not to give my power away, to stay focused on me, to build my life, etc. In the long run, that's the stuff I should be focused on; not 'does he want me.' I think the latter is actually quite counter-productive to growth and also to finding, and keeping, the right guy.
Anyway, good for you Baypark. Sounds like you've had a long journey and have turned a corner. I wonder if there is a bit of a collective wake up happening. I have seen a lot of posts lately from people who are tired of calling psychics and are acknowledging the underlying issues and feelings. I find it a comfort to know that there is support out there and that we are not alone in it!
Baypark1:
--- Quote from: doubleoh8 on September 07, 2017, 06:07:20 PM ---Yes, I agree too about the connection between abandonment issues / love addiction and psychic dependency.
And I think calling psychics can be such a negative when used to fuel our abandonment issues -- which happens with the incessant 'when will he call?' 'will we be together' tack. On the other hand, I have also had psychic help me with my healing -- identifying barriers and blocks and tools to overcome them. Maybe the key is to focus the readings on understanding ourselves and not so much on what another person is going to do. I've had psychics flat out tell me not to give my power away, to stay focused on me, to build my life, etc. In the long run, that's the stuff I should be focused on; not 'does he want me.' I think the latter is actually quite counter-productive to growth and also to finding, and keeping, the right guy.
Anyway, good for you Baypark. Sounds like you've had a long journey and have turned a corner. I wonder if there is a bit of a collective wake up happening. I have seen a lot of posts lately from people who are tired of calling psychics and are acknowledging the underlying issues and feelings. I find it a comfort to know that there is support out there and that we are not alone in it!
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So, how this lady describes how we deal with our abandonment is we have an outer child. The inner child is hurt, scared etc but the outer child is basically a bitch lol. The list she has for what the outer child does fits me to a T with the exception of a few things. One of the things is addiction and obsessing. This stuff is amazing. Some of these readers are a plethora of knowledge on how to overcome your barriers and heal. I agree, we should use their knowledge and stop focusing on the other person.
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