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Littl30ne:
Ok ladies lol one LAST Reading about this ex with Aries Intuition.. I'm #8 wow and good thing today is Wednesday because I probably would've died out of anticipation. You know why I went to a psychic in the first place? Because every time I thought 'S will be back' I used to get warm tingly chills down my spine and I just had to know what that meant!! Lol! I know it sounds crazy but I had a hunch it was a confirmation or something because every time I thought about him those tingles would go down my spine ... or I'm just crazy and need to see a doctor smh! Love makes us do/think weird things. Will update you all later xoxo
morland1:
--- Quote from: mystery123 on July 10, 2017, 10:19:44 PM ---I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.
Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).
Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?
It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over. Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.
I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!
I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.
For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol
I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”
Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!
--- End quote ---
Very well said. I loved when you said that you didn't know if the rejection fueled an obsession. I absolutely think rejection fuels it because we are human beings when someone we love disappears, cuts us off, starts dating someone new, you name it --- we obsess over it because of rejection. Rejection is a tough pill to swallow for anyone. But in my experience in dating, I have always looked back at times of rejection and then thanked god because it was a blessing.
nancy:
--- Quote from: morland1 on August 16, 2017, 08:25:48 PM ---
--- Quote from: mystery123 on July 10, 2017, 10:19:44 PM ---I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.
Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).
Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?
It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over. Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.
I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!
I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.
For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol
I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”
Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!
--- End quote ---
Very well said. I loved when you said that you didn't know if the rejection fueled an obsession. I absolutely think rejection fuels it because we are human beings when someone we love disappears, cuts us off, starts dating someone new, you name it --- we obsess over it because of rejection. Rejection is a tough pill to swallow for anyone. But in my experience in dating, I have always looked back at times of rejection and then thanked god because it was a blessing.
--- End quote ---
I always think rejection is protection.
Littl30ne:
Kisha speaks very slowly that when I wanted to add stuff or ask her about my chills I couldn't. She doesn't see a reconnection in the next 6 months nor does she see me in any serious relationship soon ... ugh it's so frustrating because I left the reading with no optimism.. I have nothing to look forward to -_- since December my life has been uneventful even if I tried dating other guys or making plans with friends.. it's like everything just stopped and now I'm waiting to get old and die. I really wish she gave me stuff to look forward to. Lady Fontaine told me she saw a reconnection even if it looks like there's a lot of distance now and by fall/winter time he would reach out but as a friend. I would have to trust our connection to really make it happen. I'm ready to rip my hair out aghhh
wildfox87:
--- Quote from: Littl30ne on August 17, 2017, 01:59:44 AM ---Kisha speaks very slowly that when I wanted to add stuff or ask her about my chills I couldn't. She doesn't see a reconnection in the next 6 months nor does she see me in any serious relationship soon ... ugh it's so frustrating because I left the reading with no optimism.. I have nothing to look forward to -_- since December my life has been uneventful even if I tried dating other guys or making plans with friends.. it's like everything just stopped and now I'm waiting to get old and die. I really wish she gave me stuff to look forward to. Lady Fontaine told me she saw a reconnection even if it looks like there's a lot of distance now and by fall/winter time he would reach out but as a friend. I would have to trust our connection to really make it happen. I'm ready to rip my hair out aghhh
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I'm sorry about the reading. You always have the freedom to go out and meet other people, readings don't dictate our lives, psychics only see a small portion. Unfortunately when Aries picks up negative outcomes it's usually accurate from what i've read from others on this board but who knows.. I'm sure your love life will move forward once you decide to let go of your POI. I know you don't want to hear that but for your own sanity and growth it's probably for the best. It might be scary and heartbreaking but a month from now you'll be so much better off. You can let life flow and always know that he's alive somewhere out there in the world but getting readings on him is only going to put him in your mind over and over again, therefore not allowing time to distance yourself and let go of him. It's a horrible addiction that is a never ending merry-go-round. The readings only add more stress and anxiety. They might be a quick fix to the present but for the longterm they are a disaster when things don't go the way we want them to. They can be so detrimental to emotional and mental health.
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