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Do any of you think your POI may not come back?
Baypark1:
--- Quote from: Rediska on March 05, 2017, 03:39:29 AM ---
--- Quote from: Baypark1 on March 05, 2017, 03:31:53 AM ---
--- Quote from: peppie on March 05, 2017, 02:51:06 AM ---if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
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Although I do agree, there are exceptions. One guy I went out with for 1 month until he told me there was someone else he had met around the same time as me. He chose her. A month isn't a long time at all to get attached, but I could not get this guy out of my heart. I started calling psychics and they said he would be back. It was 9 months later he came back. So it does happen. But I think detaching and trying to move on helps.
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That gives me hope Baypark :) what made him come back to you is that "what if?" that was on the back of mind. And assuming he was no longer with the other woman.
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The truth is I always felt 2nd best, 2nd choice and I loved him far more than he loved me. We ended up being together for 2 years and he was the one that ruined me emotionlly, spiritually and financially. So maybe there is something to that Idea that if someone leaves your life, there's a reason and they don't need to come back.
Rediska:
--- Quote from: Baypark1 on March 05, 2017, 03:49:51 AM ---
--- Quote from: Rediska on March 05, 2017, 03:39:29 AM ---
--- Quote from: Baypark1 on March 05, 2017, 03:31:53 AM ---
--- Quote from: peppie on March 05, 2017, 02:51:06 AM ---if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
--- End quote ---
Although I do agree, there are exceptions. One guy I went out with for 1 month until he told me there was someone else he had met around the same time as me. He chose her. A month isn't a long time at all to get attached, but I could not get this guy out of my heart. I started calling psychics and they said he would be back. It was 9 months later he came back. So it does happen. But I think detaching and trying to move on helps.
--- End quote ---
That gives me hope Baypark :) what made him come back to you is that "what if?" that was on the back of mind. And assuming he was no longer with the other woman.
--- End quote ---
The truth is I always felt 2nd best, 2nd choice and I loved him far more than he loved me. We ended up being together for 2 years and he was the one that ruined me emotionlly, spiritually and financially. So maybe there is something to that Idea that if someone leaves your life, there's a reason and they don't need to come back.
--- End quote ---
Okay, screw him.
Baypark1:
--- Quote from: Rediska on March 05, 2017, 03:53:05 AM ---
--- Quote from: Baypark1 on March 05, 2017, 03:49:51 AM ---
--- Quote from: Rediska on March 05, 2017, 03:39:29 AM ---
--- Quote from: Baypark1 on March 05, 2017, 03:31:53 AM ---
--- Quote from: peppie on March 05, 2017, 02:51:06 AM ---if it's more than two weeks, assume he's not coming back. only a handful of readers said nope not happening about a few relationships i asked about. the rest gave me a fairy tale.
if it's the right guy, it should be easy and we shouldn't be left guessing is my assertion. i still don't mind being deceived for a few days if i'm in a bad moment in life, though. but when i snap out of it, i hate being lied to and hate that readers give false hope.
exceptions:
he lost his job
he just started a job
a family member, including a dog died
he has a work or school deadline
he just got a divorce
other than that, no guy with his sh*t together is going to give up something very good and leave it hanging for weeks on end.
if he comes back, great, but if he leaves... time to move on.
-learned the hard way (and yes, every guy was "the one" according to some readers... not)
--- End quote ---
Although I do agree, there are exceptions. One guy I went out with for 1 month until he told me there was someone else he had met around the same time as me. He chose her. A month isn't a long time at all to get attached, but I could not get this guy out of my heart. I started calling psychics and they said he would be back. It was 9 months later he came back. So it does happen. But I think detaching and trying to move on helps.
--- End quote ---
That gives me hope Baypark :) what made him come back to you is that "what if?" that was on the back of mind. And assuming he was no longer with the other woman.
--- End quote ---
The truth is I always felt 2nd best, 2nd choice and I loved him far more than he loved me. We ended up being together for 2 years and he was the one that ruined me emotionlly, spiritually and financially. So maybe there is something to that Idea that if someone leaves your life, there's a reason and they don't need to come back.
--- End quote ---
Okay, screw him.
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I think we all deserve someone who puts a first, doesn't bail when things get tough or because they're not ready or emotionally unavailable. But we get sucked in with the wrong men. Ugh
Rediska:
I agree. However, we also have to do some major soul searching work and ask ourselves why we are into crappy men in the first place and what does this say about our own characters. Is it desperation? a "challenge?" etc? I tend to go for ones who are emotionally unavailable because I myself am this way. Then I get attached...
Part of the reason why I am clinging on to this person is because he told me verbally there was a possibility he would call me once he moved to another state. He basically forced me into limbo. I should've hung up on him right then and there but I didn't and here I am..almost 7 months later wondering.I have ZERO control unlike most of the posters here. By the way, my situation is abnormally complicated because there is another person involved. He would basically at this point give everything up just to be with me-hence why he told me he may touch base with me. I have to appreciate his honesty but at the same time I loath it as well. That's why when O Vally said, "okay, he likes you but you're basically on the backburner. Are you in a relationship? I am not sensing you're in one at all with him." Jackpot.
ladya:
--- Quote from: Rediska on March 05, 2017, 04:07:23 AM ---I agree. However, we also have to do some major soul searching work and ask ourselves why we are into crappy men in the first place and what does this say about our own characters. Is it desperation? a "challenge?" etc? I tend to go for ones who are emotionally unavailable because I myself am this way. Then I get attached...
Part of the reason why I am clinging on to this person is because he told me verbally there was a possibility he would call me once he moved to another state. He basically forced me into limbo. I should've hung up on him right then and there but I didn't and here I am..almost 7 months later wondering.I have ZERO control unlike most of the posters here. By the way, my situation is abnormally complicated because there is another person involved. He would basically at this point give everything up just to be with me-hence why he told me he may touch base with me. I have to appreciate his honesty but at the same time I loath it as well. That's why when O Vally said, "okay, he likes you but you're basically on the backburner. Are you in a relationship? I am not sensing you're in one at all with him." Jackpot.
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WOWWWWWW - all i have to say. i completely agree. it took me a long time to realize why i attract the men i attract. It's definitely a mix between a challenge and because i myself am emotionally unavailable. i have a deep fear of commitment and will never be the first to admit my feelings i don't care what how much i'm in love with the person. We attract mirrors more than we think - sometimes we just don't like what stares back at us.
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