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Kareena:
Interesting..
http://lifestyle.ca.msn.com/love-sex-relationships/hearst-article.aspx?cp-documentid=28207591
The Biological Reason Why Breaking Up is So Hard
They wrote:
"Attachment doesn't understand [that a romance can be] short run. In fact, attachment is a very powerful force — not just mentally and emotionally but physically, too. When you attach to someone, you're not as in control as you think. Therefore, it's not so easy to just break it off when you realize that someone isn't meeting your needs. People then stay for months or even years in an unhappy relationship — and it can take ages to get over a bad one."
None of that sounded too terribly surprising to me ... except for that bit about how attachment can be physically powerful. ..
As such, the authors told me, "Our brain has been wired to make sure we remain connected to our mate." Multiple "reward circuits" in our noggins are involved in the attachment process, they said. "When we are physically close to our partner, the whole reward system kicks in — so that, for example, some parts of it secrete powerfully rewarding neurotransmitters that make being close to our loved ones an immensely rewarding human experience," they continued. "When we break up, this gratifying experience is gone, only to be replaced by a painful sense of loss. It feels a bit like going through withdrawal from several drugs all at once. And the one thing that can take all that pain away is being together with our ex again. This is why people find themselves getting back together again and again and why they can feel addicted to a person who may not be very good for them. In fact, these reward systems have a way of tricking us into reuniting with our ex to reduce the momentary anxiety and uneasiness. Unfortunately, this part of the brain isn't so good at making rational decisions and judging long-term consequences."
Luckystar:
"well let me just say that an apology always feels good for me. And without it it always feels like you'll be stuck there"
exactly how i feel....
ps-great post Kareena
Luckystar:
okay everyone her info is posted :) i made a separate forum post for her under storefront psychics.
Luckystar:
kiki tomorrow is the only day besides friday that i will have some free time so i will be talking to jean and also i had to re-schedule with the tarot lady so i decided since i dont have to work until the latter part of the day i might as well get my reading with her. after that im done for the month...since ive had some conflicting advice, i decided to go ahead and break my rule of two readers per month (just for may) because of course i dont know whats going on! thanks everyone for the thoughts i am thinking of you guys too and wish everyone the best.
sammiepoo:
Wow I am glad that it worked for you!
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