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Feeling anxious

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bluebelle:

--- Quote from: allibai3 on June 09, 2016, 11:44:08 PM ---smh >:(, I'm really sorry about what's happening. On the bright side your not in limbo anymore.If you need someone to talk to you can pm me.

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Aww that's sweet thanks!! Hugs..

allibai3:

--- Quote from: FlutterShy on June 09, 2016, 11:56:25 PM ---I feel all your anxieties... Mostly cause I'm all up in mine.

I'm so sorry bluebelle! A deep hug!

I have been talking to my guy and we are planning on seeing each other soon. But we're long distance. He said he can't wait to see me and so I offered some dates and he hasn't gotten back to me since yesterday (which is nothing). Yet, I feel anxious! Crazy anxious! I ask myself what I feel anxious about...

I feel anxious because I'm afraid of him not giving me the same amount of effort I have put in. I'm afraid of being vulnerable with him again and him rejecting me, or not having the courage to tell me so- and so I'm unsafely giving my little inner me away.

Truthfully, knowing yourself is better. Knowing what you want and need and what you will tolerate and setting a strong boundary- is so loving! I feel like I'm living on little string cheeses of sortas... And possibilities. And now I feel like I'm playing game with him which the rules are I can't bring up the status of relationship and I have to accept it as casual. And this breaks my heart, because It builds unworthy. I feel pretty strongly he isn't seeing anyone else- but I always worry that he will.

Losing hope on a relationship is probably healthy. Knowing you can love yourself enough to walk away at least builds integrity and worth. Except you do not any of that while you're living it. If you do contact him, it may feel good, but not as good as if he were to reach out and do it on his own. And validation of his love comes in such small pieces... Reminding yourself why you broke up is helpful. Another warm hugs!

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I definitely agree with what you said fluttershy. When you reach out and he answers your happy but then you start to question if he truly loves you or how it would have been like if he reached out first.

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