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melancholia:
I'm kind of thinking it's what sun is saying, that they're coming into the readings with a bias about what you're expecting from them and, since they want to try to give you what you want (so you don't hang up and keep calling), that's what they give you.
Also, I kind of feel like romantic relationships are something we have more control over rather than professional ones - with a romantic relationship, there are a million different subtle opportunities to sway it one way or the other. Most times with professional ones, I've found that it's a situation-to-situation basis and a lot harder to...excuse the way I'm phrasing this, but "screw up" based on pre-suppositions. I also think there's less anxiety associated with the professional readings versus the personal ones.
divine wishes:
--- Quote from: melancholia on October 13, 2014, 08:09:42 PM ---I'm kind of thinking it's what sun is saying, that they're coming into the readings with a bias about what you're expecting from them and, since they want to try to give you what you want (so you don't hang up and keep calling), that's what they give you.
Also, I kind of feel like romantic relationships are something we have more control over rather than professional ones - with a romantic relationship, there are a million different subtle opportunities to sway it one way or the other. Most times with professional ones, I've found that it's a situation-to-situation basis and a lot harder to...excuse the way I'm phrasing this, but "screw up" based on pre-suppositions. I also think there's less anxiety associated with the professional readings versus the personal ones.
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So young Mely would never ask about romantic relationships. What about Young Sunny?
Sorry if I am being a bit obnoxious with my questions, but I really do think we have a wealth of information between us all that could help others.
Would anyone just not make that call if given a second chance?
melancholia:
--- Quote from: divinewishes on October 13, 2014, 08:18:01 PM ---Would anyone just not make that call if given a second chance?
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Oh GOD, yes. If I knew that was an option, that's what I would have picked. I would have slapped my younger self and told myself to go read the studies done on "psychic ability" and then put the damn phone down.
Problem is, at 23, I doubt I would have listened to myself. So I would also bring along a copy of my credit card and bank statements from the past several years. You know, just in case.
Bark angel:
My take is that relationships are harder to predict in terms of specific timing because we tend not to take the role we play in the outcome into our own hands.
sunandmoon:
--- Quote from: divinewishes on October 13, 2014, 08:18:01 PM ---Would anyone just not make that call if given a second chance?
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Absolutely not! And I would have healed much quicker had I not been making those calls. Never mind the financial outlay
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