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hope4love:
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Nottakingthebait:


Sun,
I'm so happy that you moved on and found someone new.  These readers are in it for the money, they keep you hanging on and calling for updates, because there is a CHANCE the person just MIGHT come around again.  If they come around again it doesn't always mean they want to reconcile it may be to screw with your head, or to close the door.  Contact doesn't mean reconciliation.

You took the healthy approach and dated your new guy because you wanted to, not because it would make someone jealous in an attempt to get them back. 

Letting go is the only option when someone clearly does not show up, won't take a call, and does not call...when these factors are present it is NOT a 50/50 chance, it is 0%.  Waiting for someone, while they are living and dating another is cheating yourself. 

Thank you for sharing your experience, as it mirrors the majority here.



--- Quote from: sunandmoon on March 02, 2014, 10:26:26 PM ---I'm glad that worked out for you. It's kind of a 50/50 chance it will when it comes to that. A guy I dated in college does that to me now and then. He comes up for Xmas a lot, and every few years he'll randomly stop by with no warning.

In my case, I was told that dating someone new would bring my exbf out of the woodwork. I did date someone new, because I liked the guy and wanted to. I certainly surrendered my old r/s to the Universe and let things unfold.

Over 2 years. Still hasn't come back. We live in the same town and do the same things, and I haven't even bumped into him.

50/50

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allbitenobark:
I totally agree with you kicking and sun. Very good points made for sure and sun I also thank you for sharing your story. I am so happy you found someone new that appreciates you and you were able to hop off the psychic merry-go-round, lol!


--- Quote from: kickingthehabit on March 03, 2014, 03:02:42 PM ---

Sun,
I'm so happy that you moved on and found someone new.  These readers are in it for the money, they keep you hanging on and calling for updates, because there is a CHANCE the person just MIGHT come around again.  If they come around again it doesn't always mean they want to reconcile it may be to screw with your head, or to close the door.  Contact doesn't mean reconciliation.

You took the healthy approach and dated your new guy because you wanted to, not because it would make someone jealous in an attempt to get them back. 

Letting go is the only option when someone clearly does not show up, won't take a call, and does not call...when these factors are present it is NOT a 50/50 chance, it is 0%.  Waiting for someone, while they are living and dating another is cheating yourself. 

Thank you for sharing your experience, as it mirrors the majority here.



--- Quote from: sunandmoon on March 02, 2014, 10:26:26 PM ---I'm glad that worked out for you. It's kind of a 50/50 chance it will when it comes to that. A guy I dated in college does that to me now and then. He comes up for Xmas a lot, and every few years he'll randomly stop by with no warning.

In my case, I was told that dating someone new would bring my exbf out of the woodwork. I did date someone new, because I liked the guy and wanted to. I certainly surrendered my old r/s to the Universe and let things unfold.

Over 2 years. Still hasn't come back. We live in the same town and do the same things, and I haven't even bumped into him.

50/50

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