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Zee:
I've done that as well. Stalked co-workers on FB, just to see the crap they put up and to look at the happiness they claim they are in and to look at their ugly families. Once companies realized the networking potential, my employer at the time, even unblocked FB and let us go on it daily. Of course, there were monstrous people who were clueless about how they treated others and had the nerve to show everything? I found that so bizarre. Or maybe they just thought they were untouchable.
FB is allowed at my current employer, but this is a much older group and they really aren't computer savvy. I showed them how to print double-sided when I got here and they thought I was god (eye roll). These people have been here over 35 plus years and always talk about what's for lunch, 401k plans and retirement, so they were forced to know something about the computer, although minimal.
These are the sorts who I'm saying where it never occurs to them not to share everything about their lives. I've heard where people have gotten robbed because the criminal saw they were out of town via their FB page. And of course they would post all the photos of the places where they were traveling to or as it stands today, use your feed to pinpoint where you are and it shows up on your FB.
I give people information about me freely, along with my real name, all the time, I don't feel any need to be fake. I was just never into being friends with a whole lot of strangers. I'm sure if a person knows what they are looking for, and how to search, they can find anything.
sunandmoon:
Oh geez, my friend the other night was just getting into fb. They wondered how people who had 700+ friends kept up with everyone and why you'd even want to? I have a friend who has over 1200 fb friends. That to me is just what you said, being friends with a whole bunch of strangers. I rarely request a friendship but will accept them as long as I know that person personally. Someone who knows my brother sent me a friend request and I've never heard of this person or seen them in my life. I just let them sit there.
I have all location services turned off on my phone and fb and never post pix when I'm away, although my bf is usually at my house when I'm gone anyway. I just wait till I get back and put up pix of where I was once they're all organized. A friend of a friend has a public wall and posts that she's in her "warm and cozy bed" WITH location turned on and it was very obvious by her postings that she was single and lived alone. CRAZY!
I also have a thing about friending co-workers, even if we are friends. Just seems a little odd to me, mixing work and play too much. But I know a ton of people do it.
Zee:
--- Quote ---I also have a thing about friending co-workers, even if we are friends. Just seems a little odd to me, mixing work and play too much. But I know a ton of people do it.
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Yes exactly, and I don't necessarily consider co-workers friends. Even at company events, it's only because I have to. If you search the web you'll find articles where people have gotten fired for the information on their FB, because they mixed business with their personal life. Whereas at any other time the photos posted are harmless, but it's who sees them and what they think they see. It's just so much safer/and less worrisome to have two accounts (1 biz and 1 personal), just so your employer won't have a reason to axe you.
Some people either forget or are not aware of their location setting. That is really dangerous in this day and age for a single female, with the loonies out. On a side note, I ordered some lunch from a restaurant on my way home (some hole place) and I was on the phone taking in the front seat and was starting to get out of my car. One of the employees from the restaurant I just left, was in the parking lot of the apartment complex where I lived.
He approached me and started asking about the lunch I purchased and saying he just saw me there. I just stood there for a sec and was like, did you just follow me from the restaurant? Don't friggin' think I won't call the police. That pretty much ended the conversation and he got back in his car. I never saw or heard from him again, but seriously does he really think I would have been interested (under the circumstances)? WTF!!!!
sunandmoon:
I was friends with one of my bosses, before she became a boss. About 6 months after I was hired, I ended up deleting her. She rarely posted and had a bunch of friends anyway so I'm hoping I wasn't missed (guess I could've just hidden her from my posts but I didn't think of it at the time). But I had to think about everything I wrote, as I worked from home a lot during that time and of course when you're billing someone by the hour, you don't want them to think you're not working, but still billing.
I hear you on the creepy guy. I had a guy once follow me out from a warehouse club at night and tried to insist on helping me load my car. Normally you can't find anyone when you really need help, and here I was with only a few things and he's insisting that he's going to help me. While it may have been what it seemed, I was a little freaked out by it and I ended up walking back towards the store till he got the message and left me alone.
Zee:
It's much better to be safe than sorry. There is a well known self defense book about a girl who was raped by some guy, who insisted on helping her bring her groceries up to her second or third floor apartment.
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