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PrettyLittleLiz:
Hi my old friends, some of my best friends, and some people I've never had the pleasure of meeting,

My name is Liz and I am a psychic addict who has spent thousands of dollars on the place that I'm currently in (my path was to call psychics in order to stop calling psychics, I guess and as everyone is well aware - it is a very expensive habit/path). This is not calling psychics except for a check in once every couple months because I am, in fact, addicted. I like to hear my ex misses me and is going to break up with his current live in girlfriend. I like to hear these things because I don't like to admit that he may very well be fine and moved on when I still have moments, albeit fleeting at this juncture, where I miss him and certain dynamics of our relationship.

I wanted to post today because this week marks the 1 year mark of not ever hearing from my ex again after the entire ordeal we went thru. I honestly can't believe it's been a year. If you click on my username, and my posts - you can read the whole ordeal/drama for yourself. 2 years of back and forth. 6 years of a relationship. And 2 years of calling for readings that manifested little things and ultimately held me back from all of the happiness and potential life can provide you with. I'm not going to say my ex wouldn't have/or won't come back eventually. Okay - who knows? However, he's had years to make those moves and I couldn't partake in actions that mirrored me disliking myself any longer (you can see it how you want and I will see it how I want. I think I obviously was acting like I didn't like myself). I was miserable when I wouldn't hear from him for days or weeks and was obsessed with my own sadness because we weren't seeing one another. The only happiness I found was when I was calling psychics about him. Or when I was talking to people about the predictions psychics gave me about him. Time moved by so slowly and all I did was try to wish it away so that these predictions would manifest. What a terrible, terrible way to live. Timeframes passed and I stayed in the same place for years. In a holding pattern convinced we were meant to be together because I felt it in my heart and had predictions happen so OF COURSE the bigger stuff would come as well. It didn't come. I'm not saying some version of some truths won't manifest at some point but nothing that the psychics said would ultimately happen has happened within the time frames described or timeframes outside of those time frames.
Ultimately I snapped out of it. It had been a couple months since we had seen one another and I was sick of the excuses. Up until the day we stopped speaking we were communicating regularly and he was telling me he loved me and was going to break up with his gf. He had the opportunity a year ago and he didn't take it. I was sad but I had my answer. I had to take control of my life and destiny and move forward. I believe there are things that are destined and that people can still love us if we are separated and may not be calling us because they are confused or whatever. HOWEVER - you can't will someone else to be with you if they don't really want to. You can choose to stay and wait all you want and think positively and change your mindset and all that but you can't make another person do ANYTHING that they don't want to do.

This was my journey and I'm not sad or regretful for what I have gone thru to get to this place. I'm not even sad to have lost the time and the money. In retrospect, I can't believe how much I led my life based on what I was being told by the psychics I trusted. No matter what anyone says, it does affect our lives. It changes what we think about situations that should be left in the past or are obviously over. If power of thought has so much control over what manifests in our lives then no wonder so many of us spend time thinking about this person and not moving forward. We position our lives in that matter by our thoughts. As soon as I decided to move on and accept my life for reality as opposed to what I was being told by the psychics (hell - what I was even being told by my ex) - I let it go and moved on. I met someone else. I stopped calling psychics. I re-learned how to live in the moment and accept life as it comes. I'm happy again. Even better - after a YEAR of not hearing a PEEP from my ex and being with someone else - I love this other person more than my ex boyfriend. I don't have to call a psychic about my relationship because it's a real relationship based on truth and wanting to be together and building a life. I thought my ex was my soul mate and we were destined to be together since I was 23 years old. I'm 30 now. He was the only man I ever called about. I even thought for the first few months of my current relationship that I could never love anyone like I loved my ex. I promise you that I have been you and FAR WORSE 10000x over. Today I am with a man who loves me and is there for me and I would never in a million years give up to go back to my ex. Never ever ever ever ever. I truly believe now that NOBODY who is worth your life is someone you would constantly have to call a psychic over.

I don't want to be preachy and I don't really have too much of an objective in this. It's your life and you can do whatever the hell you want with it. I didn't have predictions manifest the way I was told and my ex isn't coming back although we did love one another. I didn't change the course of the predictions. When it came time for my ex and his current gf to break up - he didn't want to break up with her and he didn't. So yes, I have had things happen but then they didn't and what does everything else matter then? What do the small predictions manifesting matter if nothing turned out like I was told? The best thing I ever did for myself was move on and stop calling and start living my life again. If you're afraid that you won't meet someone else, or love someone else as much as your ex - I promise you will. I can't express enough the amount my ex bf and I were "soul mates" in every single sense of the word. I love someone else more now than I ever loved him because he shows up and is a man inside this physical world that we are currently living in and I get to be happy in the present as opposed to hoping I will be in the future because someone gifted told me I would be with someone that none of us have any guarantee wants that same thing.

I love you all because I know your hearts and I hope you find some peace in your journey moving forward. Holding on or not. I truly hope everyone does get what they want but sometimes we don’t even get to know what that is until after everything is said and done. I thought my happiness would be getting back together with my ex boyfriend as these psychics saw and it just wasn’t that at all. Do whatever you want. Know that others have been in your situation and use this forum as a sounding board to help you thru whatever you have going on. Don’t attack one another for your opinions. My experience and your experience may have parallels but that doesn’t mean we can draw conclusions from one person’s testament. I can say 100% certainty that psychics are real. I can also say that life is not on their course and they can’t predict the future. I can also say that they are trying to make money and fill in the gaps of what they see with whatever they can to keep you on the phone. They can pick up on pertinent nuances and things that may unfold – but they can’t predict the future. Take everything with a grain of salt and make your life what you want it to be. It's sad when we have to accept we aren't going to get our heart's desire in that moment but God or whatever you subscribe to has a plan that is far better/greater than anything you can even think to ask a psychic about. I promise you.

Be well.

sunandmoon:
KTH, you know I pretty much went through the same thing, and have the same conclusions. Even when I started to be interested in someone else (who I'm with now), psychics continued to say my exbf was the one. Some even told me that once he got wind of my new r/s, he'd be right back to claim what was his. He just didn't feel the need to because I was always "there".

This was summer 2011. Reality is this:
IIRC the last time I saw him was August 2011. I remember seeing him on a bike ride but now can't remember if that was 2011 or 12

This man, who was so hurt, confused, scared - all those things that psychics tell us - inserted himself into my marriage in late 2006. If my marriage didn't have issues, it never would have gotten as far as it did, but truth is I had huge issues with my husband and the flattering attention my new found friend gave me was much appreciated. I was trying to figure out how to get out of my marriage by this time anyway.

So he professes his love for me. Hangs around me all the time. Visits me at work. Does events with me. All while I was married. People started to suspect and told him to chill, which made him more determined to spend time with me. This goes on for years.

My marriage ends in 2008. He has never been shy about telling me how he feels and that doesn't stop now. We spent 2009 together, though not officially living together, we still have our own places.

He suddenly stops talking to me in early 2010. Nothing I said to him would get him to talk. I called psychics from June 2010 - Aug 2011. Fed all the same fairytales you were.

We were oddly enough still FB friends (he had 2 accounts), though we rarely commented on or like each others pix or posts in the last couple of years. August 2013, he deleted the account that he was friends with me on, and refriended most of our mutual friends on his "main" account. He has had me blocked on that account since he created it in 2009, when we were together. Funny though, that his profile pix on the account I couldn't see, were often ones he took of himself at my house.

So this man who was inappropriate with me during my marriage (I'm not talking physically, I'm talking the way he acted, even when asked not to), for years, suddenly is too shy to say one little word to me afterwards? Then removes the one impersonal way we could communicate, if he truly cared like they say he does? This man who was by his words and theirs, my soulmate? Best friends? Would always be there for me?

I think not.

My current bf doesn't have a fb account, and I know it would bother him if I plastered his pix online. So there is very little mention of him in my account. IOW that isn't a reason my exbf deleted that account and still has me blocked from his other one.

I'm with you guys - future predictions were 99.8% WRONG

Liz - you posted after while I was. I'm so happy you've found someone. Like you, my I would never go back to my exbf. The guy I am seeing now is so wonderful and tells and shows me daily how much he loves me. He doesn't play any games and I am never guessing how he feels. It's the best r/s I've ever been in and I am grateful every single day that I was able to release the ass that was restricting me from living. Not calling psychics and allowing my life to be lived, helped so much.

hope4love:
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Bella:
Hi all, once again...

First, I am so truly moved by some of the posts today.  They all seem to resonate with me in some way or another.  Thank you.

But I would like to say to all the people out there who seem to think that people just don't come back to post anymore, because the guy came back, or they made other decisions, broke their addictions, or whatnot.
What I would like to say to them, is why not PM them?  They'll get notice on their email accounts.  And MAYBE they'll be able to answer as to why they haven't come back to post.  I know I have to a few....There are a lot of original members that still are members.  You can email them yourself to find out the WHY.  Some go back to 2011.  And their membership is still active, which means they'll see if you pm them, even if they don't log on here anymore. 

Even look at the membership...see who ever at least posted once.   Send them a pm and see what they say.  I would love to hear how some people are doing.  Where they are in their lives.  I too hate the story with no ending.  Whether good or bad. 

Why not find out first hand?  Find out WHY they don't post anymore.

Bark angel:
Bella,
If you are so interested in knowing why all these old members haven't come back, why haven't you PM-ed them, yourself?

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