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sagitira:
i agree Bella, we can all try and say it's a 50 50 chance. i know a few members who are around but do not post anymore...why? because nothing came true. nothing. if you have a reader telling you your future shouldn't at least something come true? i have not had a single solid prediction come true - none! only a few readers were able to pick up past and present. not a single future prediction happened.

if someone wants to rely on 50/50 chance, it's their decision. the way i see it and that is my own experience no psychic can predict future - NONE OF THEM.

for those who have just discovered psychic world i understand that they have hopes. year ago when some people told me not to read with psychics i didn't listen. i still held hopes..why? because psychics could pick up on present and past i wanted to believe that the future will be as they saw. so i continued readings also to relieve pain. there was a therapeutic side to the readings - as Bella mentioned i often got a reading to get through the night, to be able to calm down and sleep. but this does not change the fact that no predictions happened. 2 years waiting for outcome that was supposed to come 1.5 year ago is enough time for me to wake up and realise that the guy i love will not end up with me and chose a different path. i'm here lost thousands because of him. i feel like a fool for believing crap.

i highly value kicking's feedback. it is honest review of her situation. i did the same because i thought let me not leave the forum without letting everyone know if predictions happened or not. mine did not happen. and clearly many many other people's predictions failed to manifest as well.

the only way is to open your eyes, look at what's in front of you, look at actions - do they match the words? and instead of consulting psychics speak to the guy. see how he feels. if the guy is saying clearly no i can't be with you then it's a no! there's no need to consult psychic for that. heal, move on and if the guy comes back or changes his mind then you can decide what to do. of course there's always a chance for them to come back. most of them do come back in one way or another at some point. it could be that right now it is not the right time for the two of you to be together. who knows...

but important message here what i'm trying to put across is this. do not spend your life waiting for the one person who made you cry, depressed and heartbroken. it will ruin your life. it really will. try and live your life in the meantime, do things for your own growth. i spent 2 years waiting - most of my days were spending at home, in bed with my laptop researching new psychics, checking their reviews and getting readings, crying, thinking of him and feeling low. worst 2 years of my life. you think it got me anywhere???? NOPE...only now i'm realising i have to start living because he's not coming back and life does go on. do not prolong the healing process, don't try to take shortcut, go through the pain because when you do you heal faster. i wish i knew this before. now i'm going through the pain but at the same time i feel like i'm healing, making progress. if you have no friends join meetup.com  i did so and i for the first time went out and enjoyed with others with similar problems and i enjoyed it. do something for yourself that does not include him. the more you do the faster you will heal. this does not mean you are closing the door on the person you just look after you first. it's the hardest thing i've had to do...

i'm not bashing any psychics this is my personal experience based on which my PERSONAL OPINION is that absolutely no psychic can see MY future. i allowed them to ruin my life. i don't blame them. i had the choice to call or not call. i made wrong choice and wish i never ever discovered the psychic world.

hope there will be at least one person whose prediction manifest fully. i have not come across a single person yet who was able to confirm that predictions manifested. not even one! so much for 50/50 chance...

honest feedback good or bad is important. thank you KTH for sharing your story with us. wish you LOTS OF STRENGTH and the fastest healing possible. pm me if anything, as i said lot of emotional support is very important and it helped me a lot in my journey.

Nottakingthebait:
Bella and Sagitiria,

I thank you both for confirming your experience with psychics as it is no different than mine.  I was in tears as I read both of your posts this morning, I know all to well the disappointment that comes with readings.

Bella, you and I have shared along the way and you have been so supportive even though you were going through so much.  I felt every word you wrote and the emotion behind those words.

I am facing reality head on and it is not comfortable, in fact it is very painful.  I hope the information I am sharing will help someone heal.

I will keep this short and simple:  There are 5 stages of grieving associated with any loss, breakups and letting go of a relationship follow the same process as mourning a death.

Denial- we have all experienced this! Our heart takes the lead as we try to adjust to losing the person we thought we couldn't live without.  Even though we know the relationship is over we cant help but entertain the fantasy that somehow it will all work out. 

Anger-we project our anger to God, him/her, everyone and anyone that may be involved with the situation. How could this person do this to me?  Anger for the other woman/man, anger directed toward friends that are still friends with him/her.

Bargaining-negotiating, threatening, promises.  This is the stage when many people look to psychics and/or astrology, yes there is clinical data to back this up!   

Depression-Hopelessness is most pervasive and debilitating, It is the thing that leads us to believe that nothing will ever be or feel different than it is right now. Hopelessness makes it feel like you will never move on and that nothing will ever work out for you in the future.

Acceptance-making peace with the loss, this is gradual and sadness will still linger.  Making peace with what happened, letting go of the hopes and desires for that particular relationship, and slowly moving forward with your life.

There are no time limits associated with this process, everyone will move at their own pace. 

I hope this helps, if the stages of grief are identified the healing process is in motion and as time moves on so do we.

allbitenobark:
Kicking!!! I just wanted to say I adore you, lady. You are a rational and loving soul and you call it like you see it. I can not express enough how meaningful your words are to me and thank you for taking the time to review your latest bout with psychics.

This is my second time around with readers and I should also know better, lol! I have yet to have a big picture prediction manifest. If anyone wants to challenge this, fine, go for it. But, the first time I started calling psychics about a relationship crisis was in 2006. I saw that ex for the first time since 2008 six months ago randomly with his new, and perfectly suited for him, girlfriend. She was delightful. According to most (98%) of my readings then he was "the one", my soulmate, we were far from over, he's coming back in 3...I mean 4...I mean 5....you get the idea. Anyway, he's a nice guy but not my guy and at the time I was devastated! hahahaha

Fast forward....my current ex and I have been split well over 2 years now. He moved on quickly, had a new girlfriend 4 months later and has been with her ever since. They live together and seem to be moving forward. Have I had glimpses here and there that he is still attracted to me? Yes. Lots of times. His actions were fleeting and inconsequential. Unlike some, I am socially involved with my ex and see him often. I am lucky or cursed, however you want to perceive it, that I don't have to constantly guess what is happening in his life. I actually see it with my own two eyes. Whether this is his forever girl or not, I don't know, but at this time he is with her and has moved on from me.

According to...oh I'll be generous here...about 94% of my readings he and I should be back together by now and they should have broken up about 10 times. Ce la vie. Does it hurt? F**k yes. I even tear up if I think about too much. But, it's time to put my healing into overdrive and stop this merry-go-round of false hope.

I do believe there are some with a gift, and like Synergy mentioned, the truth is I really do enjoy getting readings. That's my demon to deal with but I have limited my readings severely and am being very selective. For me personally, I am staying away from the platform readers from now on. That's my choice and is mostly based on the anxiety I get from being on a timer, lol.

I agree that everyone heals in their own time and maybe I needed this experience this time around for whatever reason I or the universe deemed it necessary. For any newcomers reading this please understand that psychic readings are a slippery slope to start down so please proceed with caution.  ;)

Bark angel:
I know my reply will not be popular, but I am not here for popularity, so here goes.  Whatever works for you, personally, is what you have to go with.  If it works for Kicking to turn the page and put this in the past, then so be it. It may not work for others, but it works for her.

All I wish to say or contribute to this thread is that hyperbole is hyperbole.  "All psychics are", "none of the psychics were", "predictions never", "every prediction is", "100% of predictions", "0%  of the members" - these are all hyperbole.  And the truth lies somewhere between. What does that mean?  It means that while it may appear that psychic predictions are not accurate to some people, it is simply that - a perception by some people.  While it might be that former members have NOT come back to report on predictions there are any number of reasons why.  One of those reasons could be that their psychic predictions did not manifest, but it could also be for some other reason.

I'll give you an example.  I was married once.  To a man that I loved dearly.  He cheated.  They stole everything and the only way I was able to heal was to blog about that experience.  I did so daily.  I blogged about as the events unfolded, each event, each incident,. day-by-day for years.  Until one day I met Mr. Wonderful and the blog - out there in Cyberspace - remains just as it was that day.  I never went back to complete it...although events continued to unfold.  Although events turned out in my favor.  Why?  Because my focus was shifted.  It didn't mean that nothing worked out in the end.  It meant that I was distracted and by the time my life returned to its normal pace and cadence..."that" episode that prompted me to chronicle each experience became less significant.

Perception is everything.  I have learned that while reading with psychics.  I maintain that it is highly possible that we control whether psychic predictions manifest or not. I believe, and you are all welcome to disagree if you wish, but I believe that in order to see what so many of these talented 6th sense seers can see, it involves a paradigm shift in our own thinking.  If we don't do it, chances are it might not become our reality.

So, if I were to advise anything here and today, I would simply say this.  Believe what you wish.  Accept the reality that is before your eyes, but remember, what you see today is what is here today.  Tomorrow is completely a different case.  For those of you who feel in order to debunk psychic readings you must face the cold harsh reality that you face today, please do so.  But remember statements like "I know 100% he is not coming back" are simple hyperbole.   If psychics have no ability to see the future, then what makes you believe you can see it either?  Today's reality is today's and not tomorrow's. Open your mind to the possibility that you also cannot possibly know what tomorrow will bring.

melancholia:
I'm not getting too much into this since I've vowed that I'm not calling anyone except maybe Kisha towards the end of this month, but KTH, you know we all love you. <3 I'm sorry you're going through this all over again.

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