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Don't Put Your Faith in Psychics
Truth:
okay, let me give you a couple statements, basically saying the same thing:
1 - you are doing it all wrong
2 - let me show you this way i've found helpful
it's not what you are saying, it's the way you are saying it. you sound condescending or like we are complete idiots.
Bark angel:
No that's not true. But, if you like, turn it around for a moment. Put yourself in my position and re-read these posts.
Isn't this what you are doing to me?
1. my comments are all wrong - I am making comments all wrong according to you.
2. you have a better way of making comments that you will accept and not criticize me for
Now, in my opinion, when placed in the reverse, it's both what you're saying and how you're saying it. You don't simply sound condescending you ARE being very judgmental. And you appear to me to have one huge chip on your shoulder that gets in the way of everything. You cannot seem to read the words I write without inserting some sinister, underhanded, mysterious agenda that simply does not exist on my part.
I have hardly posted on this forum for the last year because of the reception that I receive from some of you - just like this one. Unjustified - Critical - downright ugly- telling me how to convey my opinions and thoughts just because I did not phrase it the way you think I should. Not your opinions, mine! My experiences, not yours! I speak English (my native language) and I know what I write and I do not write in double entendres. How you interpret what I write it is another story. It is pure supposition on your part. Besides, who made you judge and jury over the manner in which I write? Yes, I am educated. I believe you are confounding education for condescension, so I suggest you read my posts again.
By the way, even if you are correct in your theory... nowhere in this discourse did I utter or imply that anyone is doing anything wrong. Not once. But what is wrong with posting that I found a way to do something that is helpful? You behave as though this is your forum, and only people that reiterate your sentiments are allowed or welcome. It's a disgrace and you should be ashamed of yourself for placing people in that position. Wonder why this place is dead? Take a good long look at yourself.
End. Of. Story.
Good night! :o
--- Quote from: Truth on September 17, 2014, 10:45:31 PM ---okay, let me give you a couple statements, basically saying the same thing:
1 - you are doing it all wrong
2 - let me show you this way i've found helpful
it's not what you are saying, it's the way you are saying it. you sound condescending or like we are complete idiots.
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Synergy:
Bark, why do you do this? We can all disagree. It's healthy. But you never once accept your role in the turn our conversations take. Why can't you, for once, see that, yes, it's possible to infer the tone in what you've written. When you end a post with "try it", it DOES come off as condescending! Instead of getting defensive and act as if you're being victimized (which you ALWAYS end up doing), just take a moment to accept that we all have differing takes on the matter. Re-read my initial response to you. It was in NO WAY agressive. I stated why I don't think mindset regarding predictions has an impact on whether the predictions manifest or not. I was offering a differing viewpoint. I didn't attack your view or you directly. Yet, your response to me was ONCE AGAIN condescending because you decided to point out that you define "dwell" the same way a dictionary does... Um, ok?
I don't understand why we can't all share our views on the matter without being rude to one another. It's bizarre. Seriously. Re-read my initial response to you, Bark. I in no way attacked you. I shared my thoughts on why I don't believe dwelling on a prediction impacts it. I even provided two personal examples. You can be allowed to have your opinion, as I am allowed to have mine. Since this is a FORUM, I voiced mine the way you did yours. Making the decision to respond defensively doesn't make sense to me. I'm sorry.
This is a valid, thought-provoking topic. It'd be nice to hear everyone's opinions without it becoming an argument, but that's never possible here when certain people are involved... and this includes you. Instead of always pointing fingers, look at your own role in this.
Truth:
yes, i was irritated at your post and i admit that. not trying to be a wolf behind sheeps clothing like you come across. normally i don't care and i just don't even reply to the posts (98% of the time), but you caught me on a bad night.
Bark angel:
Synergy - my beef is and was with Truth. She was being downright rude. Par for the course here. We - (you and I) don't always see things the same way - but I find you reasonable. Some aren't.
Simply put. I define dwell the way it is defined. I'm not sure what your is but mine if as I stated. I can't see why you take issue with everything I write. You take umbrage with the words "Try it"! Really? What the hell is wrong with suggesting someone give thought to something? I didn't say they should DO it, I said have you given thought to this? Try it" What the Heck. It is really crazy around here!!!! You folks really take the cake.
This is the way it is here. A few commandeering how everyone else should think,. act, write, post, live. It is ridiculous. It has and always will be a clique. Some in - others out. It won't ever change. I just don't like to be misrepresented.
So, please, this is addressing those that have MISREPRESENTED ME and you all know who you are. Hear my words. I AM NOT A PSYCHIC. I am NOT MASQUERADING as a PSYCHIC. I am NOT A WOLFF BEHIND SHEEP's CLOTHING. I DO NOT APPRECIATE THE INSULTS!!
Now please re-read the exchange and see where the first dig, insult, accusation, and barb was tossed.
I'm done!!! See ya!
--- Quote from: Synergy on September 17, 2014, 11:57:46 PM ---Bark, why do you do this? We can all disagree. It's healthy. But you never once accept your role in the turn our conversations take. Why can't you, for once, see that, yes, it's possible to infer the tone in what you've written. When you end a post with "try it", it DOES come off as condescending! Instead of getting defensive and act as if you're being victimized (which you ALWAYS end up doing), just take a moment to accept that we all have differing takes on the matter. Re-read my initial response to you. It was in NO WAY agressive. I stated why I don't think mindset regarding predictions has an impact on whether the predictions manifest or not. I was offering a differing viewpoint. I didn't attack your view or you directly. Yet, your response to me was ONCE AGAIN condescending because you decided to point out that you define "dwell" the same way a dictionary does... Um, ok?
I don't understand why we can't all share our views on the matter without being rude to one another. It's bizarre. Seriously. Re-read my initial response to you, Bark. I in no way attacked you. I shared my thoughts on why I don't believe dwelling on a prediction impacts it. I even provided two personal examples. You can be allowed to have your opinion, as I am allowed to have mine. Since this is a FORUM, I voiced mine the way you did yours. Making the decision to respond defensively doesn't make sense to me. I'm sorry.
This is a valid, thought-provoking topic. It'd be nice to hear everyone's opinions without it becoming an argument, but that's never possible here when certain people are involved... and this includes you. Instead of always pointing fingers, look at your own role in this.
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