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PrettyLittleLiz:
Let me share my experience with online dating and let you all know I have absolutely no horse in the race of what your decisions are in regard to your lives and have zero affiliation with Eharmony. I only have what my personal experience has been. I tried Match.com when I was younger (hey, 5 of my friends ex boyfriends, the idiot personal trainer of my boss, a guy I know with a girlfriend, my Dad, etc) and actually tried Eharmony for about a week last year, but was too hung up on my ex to really give another person, let alone someone I've never met, a chance.

I signed up for Eharmony right before Thanksgiving because I was looking for a RELATIONSHIP and because I loved their marketing. It hooked me from the beginning. I was sent the 8-10 immediate matches of men, and a couple of them sent me the first line of defense questions. I really enjoyed their profile building, the questions, the discretion, the format of their website. I think they must have just revamped their layout because it looks a lot more like a social networking page then a dating website page. Anyway, I traded responses with a couple men, and one had asked if he could call me. I was SO hesitant to do anything because I felt like it wasn't an organic way to meet someone (I was hung up on my ex), and I was kinda self conscious that I'd meet a man and afraid he'd reject me and my ego would never recover, thus spiraling me into years and years of singledom and probably very expensive therapy. Signing up for Eharmony was THE BEST decision I have made in all of 2012 regarding my romantic relationships. My current boyfriend, C, and I were matched up almost immediately and he was the only guy I chose to meet in a public place for a drink to feel out. I also googled him before to make sure he wasn't a creep. He has been on their website for about a year, and was looking for a relationship - but didn't have it work out with any person he had dated before we met. It takes two to want to be in a relationship and I really don't think that the men on Eharmony would spend tons of time developing their profiles and without the ability to search women if they weren't looking for relationships. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 and a half months now and let me tell you - he is smart, successful, handsome, kind, loyal, and just overall amazing. I honestly feel like I'm in a fairytale and can't believe this guy was on a dating website. Do I think that everyone's experience is the same as mine? No. But a handful of my friends have met their current significant others on Eharmony and I can honestly say with my work schedule and since I don't like the bar scene, I never would have met this gorgeous man if it wasn't for this website.

I just think everyone's experience is different and this was the right choice for me because I knew I wanted a man who was looking for a partner. Additionally, there were a handful of other guys I would have probably have gone out with had I not had such an amazing connection and had C not pursued me as much as he did. Think of all the money you've spent on psychic readings about someone who obviously hasn't been treating you how you deserved to be treated. Nobody says you have to meet anyone, but it is interesting to see who's out there and maybe you'll get as lucky as I did.

jen80:
@P am so happy for you. He sounds amazing. Are their online profiles real?. Is there a way to be sure?.

PrettyLittleLiz:
I know Eharmony uses http://www.relyid.com/

loops77:
I have never dated online, but I do keep on reading that different sites have a different vibe. It does seem like eHarmony offers a better chance because of the thorough intake process. It seems I hear horror stories from Match and OkCupid

hope4love:
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