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sarahkw:
It's really just blowing my mind! It can't be coincidental at this point.

bjr181:
Figured this would be the most appropriate category to mention my current situation.  For those of you who don't know my story, my ex and I dated for 1.5 and he broke up with me.  I fought hard for the relationship and we "worked" on things for another 1.5 years (in other words, I worked on things to help from my side, he worked on things by bringing in other women).  Needless to say, I had enough when I finally found out he was banging it out with this one girl who was supposedly "his friend" while still hooking up with me.  I left without saying a word January 2012 and didn't hear from him until April when he told me he was with this girl in a relationship.  I heard from him sporadically across the next few months.  He checks in from time to time. 

I have to ask, and would love a guys perspective or any one that can give me insight.  What is the point of reaching out to your ex when you are the one in the relationship with someone else and you know that you hurt your girlfriend (me) exponentially.  And tonight, he was being weird.  Asking me about if my dinner plans for Saturday were a date.  And if I was dating anyone seriously.  To my knowledge, he's still with "his friend" but my assumption is that they are having problems, or he is bored so he's remembering the old days.  I don't think he is trying to smooze his way back in but what are your thoughts?  Keep in mind, I keep things at arms length in our texts and I NEVER bring up her.  Trying to stay classy and to be honest, I don't care to know how they are or how serious they have gotten. 

loops77:
Hes just immature and likes options. You dodged a bullet.

hope4love:
It sounds like he's obviously doing a 'temperature check' to see where you're at and detecting your level of interest, if any. In other words, he wants to see what his options are.
Men this like annoy the crap out of me.  >:(

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