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Is anyone else feeling shitty like me
AngelGuided:
Have one for me cjean...I'll have one tomorrow night with my girls!!!! ;)
cj:
;) woohoo! you go girl....and meet another boo while your out!
AngelGuided:
Never know? I'm going out with a bunch of married women though, I think??? ;D
Sunshinegirl:
Ok ladies... I have been gone on a work trip again so I'm catching up and mostly I'm just reading because I'm in a very different spot with relationships here. Anyway, I have mentioned this in the past and I'm going to mention it again just because this was so helpful to me when I needed it. It's an E-Book called "Catch Him and Keep Him" by Christian Carter which you can find by Googling it. I know the title sounds a bit manipulative however, it's more about learning to control your own "female" emotions and how to deal with the differences between men and women and how to keep yourself from reacting in a negative way and killing it at the beginning (like I'm reading here in some cases, ouch!) :-(
I'm not saying this made it a piece of cake, but I really think reading this book has been the difference between my "old way" of dating, and my "new way" of dating which has lead me to SM. I CAN relate to what many of you are talking about. I went through it too with SM but I knew how to deal with it differently this time because of the book. In my opinion, the book helps women to be the one to make the choice, not the men, which is sort of how I used to date for many, many years!!!
Anyway, just a word of warning... I have purchsed Carter's other books/tapes, blah, blah, and they were soooo not worth it. So, if your going to do it, just read the ebook and reread the ebook and stop there. The rest of the stuff is just money makers for Carter.
I hope all works out for all of you lovely ladies... and those fabulous guys on here too! :-)
kirakira:
Angel, I think you may be over-analyzing his actions. We've all done it, and like we all know, the technology makes it too easy -but also to easy to think we know when we might not. I'm not saying to trust him completely, but try try try not to check on him, I know that's hard, but it's torture for you. And you really can't be sure what any of it means. Remember, guys often have a different sense of time (my ex used to always say "the other day"- I'd be like "you mean last night?!" or "you mean two fucking weeks ago?!"). They can be a little sneaky with keeping a couple burners on too. All you can do is be honest with yourself and him and ask for the straight deal or not, but if you haven't established something, don't let it ruffle you yet.
He shouldn't have planned a Friday night with you if he wasn't gonna do it, but what if he was? You won't know because you assumed he had plans to go to that club, but facebook events are not like, set in stone, you know, maybe he wanted to see if you'd wanna go, or just bail altogether on it! Try to relax, sweetie!!!!!!! Don't sabotage the potential ???
Speaking of lovely guys... jb?!!? WHAT IS UP? and healer... you sure are quiet too!!!
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